Age differences

[Shellywba]

Do people have problems with age gaps? I'm 16 and my boyfriend of four months is 23. He's not a pedophile or nothing, as some people did think! So do you guys have a problem with age gaps?

[secretspirit]

I was 18 when I started going out with a boyfriend of 25, which is the same gap as you and your boyfriend. I don't think there's a problem - I don't think about it at all and nobody ever commented on it. Good luck to you, and by the way I've been married to mine for 3 years now so it can't have been that bad ;-)

[vittoria]

The age difference is only 7 years which is not that great. I don't think the age gap matters that much. My sister's partner is 17 years older than her but things seem to work very well between them.

[andy hughes]

I went out with a girl who was sixteen, when i was twenty-four. i didn't know how old she was until I'd seen her a few times, and by then i really liked her, so we never thought it was an issue - she was veery mature for her age, and we got along just fine. If you are happy, then don't worry what others think.

[bernardo]

You know that you are getting middle-aged when you realise that you are more than twice as old as the person you are fantasising about while walking - sorry, I meant winking - sorry, I meant wanting - sorry, I meant something else. But apart from the dreaded realisation of middle-age, no I don't have any problem with it.

[Robinia]

The age isn't the problem as long as he treats you with care and repect and not like a possession. (I speak from experience).

[coggles]

Hello Andy, please don't take this the wrong way, I am by no means implying anything here. Although I too, didn't think there was anything wrong in having a dance and a kiss at a party once, when I was 16 and a good family friend was 23, if one of my daughters wanted to go out with someone of 23 when they were 16, I would be really worried. How would you feel, just out of interest, as I know you have (3) daughters.

[Lilsexymofo5]

This guy that im really interested in is 25...im 16...Usually i would be wondering what he wants with me but this guy is really different. He treats me so well. I know what your thinking..."he just wants in your pants"..But im not like that and Ive talked to him about that and he believes sex is suppose to be for marriage. We have the same spiritual Beliefs also and Most of our conversations are about that. Im very mature for my age and hes a lil immature so our personalitys fit together. i just need to hear what you guys think...~jen

[Shellywba]

Just go for it mate... If he's what you want, go for it.

[blueeyedlass]

well im 23 and my boyfriend is 16 years older than me when we first got together there was a lot of problems with everyone else my family mainly. no one thought it would last, i was another notch on his bedpost etc now four years later were still going strong and my parents now have a grandson that they wouldnt have got if they had got their own way. i think you know in your self if thats the person you want to be with despite anyones age.

[eliza1]

i hope your relationship works but when i was 16 i was with my 23 yr old boyf for 18 months. it was good at the time but i think back now and i am disgusted that i ever went with someone so much older and what the hell was a 23 yr old going out with a sixteen yr old?? i'm 23 now and the thort of getting with someone so young gives me shivvers. also my mates would rip the ****. and as for what my parents thort. if my 16yr old daughter was with someone tthat old i'd castrate and kill him

[Shellywba]

Well I am still with my man !

He's 25 in Feb, and I am 18 in May.

People don't give a crap now - which doesn't effect me cos I've never really bothered much on what people say...

If my daughter came home with a bloke 7 years older than him, the only thing I would question was his love for my daughter, not his age