The cause of homosexuality

[neoteric]

Do you know why some people become a gay?

[andy hughes]

I think the salient point in your question is the word 'become' - the understanding is that people are gay because that's the way they are born, there is of question of a concious choice - it would be like saying "Why did you become a 5' 10" left handed white male who hates garlic?" - it's just the way it is.

[mad_for_it]

I beg to differ on both the above points in some ways. first of all bobbobley says it's in your genetic make-up. this is untrue - there is no gene in your body that determines sexuality, i would have to say it's the way your brought up and the way your mind works. which leads me to my next point about andy's answer. I think it would be untrue to say 'you are born straight or gay' - sexuality only comes into your life at a certain age (which obviously differ's for different people) I think it depends on your own circumstances and upbringing. i.e the lack of male influence in life COULD (i'm not saying WOULD - this is only a suggestion) make a man attracted to another man. and same with women. but i definitely think it's a personal choice rather than either genetic make-up or the way your born. what you think? P.S I've had plenty of male influence when growing up so i'm as straight as ruler.

[Nimrod]

I think "mad for it" is expressing an opinion without knowledge of the subject. I am gay and have been all my life, it is not a choice, given that luxury I would prefer to be `straight`. I have also been married and have two children but I realised that that way of life was not the natural one for meand subsequently divorced my wife to live with my partner who I was also seeing at that time. We have been together for over 40 years and are still devoted. The sex act normally associated with gay men has no real importance in our living together and has not been practiced for many years. This has not affected our relationship, it is love and trust and friendship that are are more important. Just being there is enough. It would be nice to hear from other gay couples and to find out how long they have been together. Mad for it has opened a can of worms I think and there is no lid for the can.

[icecoldin]

I think mad_for_it is forgetting to engage the brian when he opens his mouth (nothing personal). This is something (i think) that is inherent (look it up mad_for_it), ie this is how a person's genetic makeup is woven. It is true to say that sexuality only really takes affect at a certain age (agreed), which does vary from person to person and from gender to gender give or take a few years. However, this does not mean to say that what you are born with, is nessessary realised prior to hormones 'kicking in'.It lies dormant until such time it is ready to be released, whatever it may be. It is frankly mind numbingly stupid(again, nothing personal mad_for_it) to suggest that people choose to 'become' gay especially when there are people like yourself crawling around on the surface of this intolerent planet. Well done for being as straight as a ruler by the way....give yourself a gold star.

[TheHitMaker]

The reason for being gay cannot be genetic - as genetic effects need to be passed on through straight sex. This may happen occasionally, but not, I think, often enough for the passage of a 'gay' gene. I believe that being gay is a result of upbrining and circumstances.

[Flub]

I was merely stating that it is NOT genetic and everyone DOES have the choice! Gay people will never know why they are gay (relating to my opinion that upbringing affects matters) you could have been affected when young yet it had no affect on your life until you became sexually active. Agree with TheHitMaker. P.S (referring to the fact that i sensed a little tension a couple of answers above - i suggest that maybe some gay people are a little bitter or jealous of the 'normal sexuality'. The worm can expands.............

[poison]

I have a gay friend and I also wondered what 'made' him that way. After reading up on the subject, I was made aware that a man could be 'made' gay by being rejected by his father, as my friendship with this man progressed, he made it apparent that he was rejected by his father. I however, love him to pieces, gay or not and I will never reject him. By the way I am a straight female.