Attn SMOWBALL

[evedawn]

Just seen you on here and wondering "how it's going" Both you and I had a really fraught weekend with our husbands 2 weeks back (your's being worse than mine) and wodnering what the outcome was and how you are feeling?

[Smowball]

God, how long have you got?? lol. Erm, well met him for a meal last Friday, had long long talk about a lot of things. He actually said it was absolutely nothing to do with me, just pressure of everything else. Came home on Sunday. Things seem to be ok, am still pretty hacked off that he felt the need to stay away a week, and not overnight like most people! But suspect that was him being stubborn, waiting for me to ask him back.

Men!! So how about you??

[mazie]

Glad it all worked out OK Smowball... Men, pain in the Harris x

[NoMercy]

Hope you're both okay. X

[ummmm]

Have you laid down some ground rules, Smow?

Eve, what about you? I hope you did a bit of feet stamping, finger pointing, teeth clenching!

[rowanwitch]

Sounds like he needs some professional help with his anger and other issues... perhaps he might consider it. Could also help him deal with his feelings about what is going on with his ex/daughter

good luck

[Smowball]

Had to laugh - when he unpacked I didnt recognise some of his washing. His mother had gone and bought him new pants and socks!!

[ummmm]

Mothers, don't you love 'em :-)

[evedawn]

I don't blame you for being hacked off! Your husband sounds a little bit like mine. I am not angry at all or even hurt - just "jaded" and I feel "damaged" (a bit of a dramatic phrase but that coins it). However, I DO beleive that at heart he is a good, kind man and I keep telling myself to forgive and forget, Lord knows I've not been perfect over the years either.

[rowanwitch]

And while she provides a safety net like that he may always be tempted to run to her when things get tough. At least you will know where he is..

[Smowball]

Yep I told him everything I wasnt happy about before he came back. have to say he has made a real effort with Jnr Smow - lets just see how it goes!

And yes, think he does need to speak to somebody, even if not to bottle things up and get to this stage again.

[Dee Sa]

ladies glad to hear you have got things sorted, hope it all works out well.
not so sure about the mum buying her "little boy" new underwear she obviously though it was going to be a long stay.

[WELSHYORKIE]

Smow, how is Smow Jnr with his return?

[Smowball]

Well I have to be honest, he wasnt to thrilled beforehand, so I promised him that if things were the same as before then I wouldnt stand for it. So far so good, am hoping that he has had time to think about how unfair he was being.

[WELSHYORKIE]

It must be difficult for Jnr to trust his stepfather - I hope it all works out ok for you all but like Rowan suggested, some professional help may not go amiss.

[Smowball]

Its not easy, so am just taking it a day at a time, but ultimately son comes first.