My 18yr old son wants....

[kat2206]

A baby with his girlfriend... They have only been together for approx 5 months for goodness sake. They are both 18yrs old, my son works full time and his girlfriend works part time but also goes to college.

My son is in the process of applying to join the Forces, if they get pregnant, this will all stop.

At present, my son still lives with me and his girlfriend is coming over tonight so I think a talk is in order but personally I think it will fall on deaf ears.

Why can't they just wait until he is settled and is financially stable enough to bring a baby into this world, if they are serious enough to want to be together long term then I can't see why they can't wait just a little longer.

I'm have googled, without any luck, as to where I can get hold of these life like doll/babies so they can have a few days/ week with it and then see what happens thereafter as I'm sure their minds will surely change then.

I'm at my wits end!!!

[dotty.]

what happened to his 27 year old GF with 4 kids?

[kat2206]

She, thankfully, disappeared once he realised what she was like and she and her kids had stayed with us for a while.. I would have thought he had learned from that experience..

[dotty.]

exactly, he's not done, send him packin

[kat2206]

I can't do that Dotty, he's still my son and to be honest I'm all he's got now. His father has not had anything to do with him for near on a year... This is why I think he wants a baby, I think that he needs to feel wanted but it's not the answer... That poor baby would be coming into this world as a product of my sons insecurity, he knows how much I absolutely love/adore him but it doesn't seem enough :(

[Anngel]

Are they thinking ahead...if he is going to join the forces and the worst happens...maybe a baby would mean something of your son left for you and her to care for. Not a good thought...but possible.

[boxtops]

where will the baby live though? He's planning to stay at yours and the girlfriend with her mum and the baby? how does her mum feel about this? It's just such a bad idea - she's at college, she should at least finish her studies first, then get a full time job to save some money.

[jan01]

oh dear Kat what a dilema! sounds as if they are actively trying now. Does you son have any siblings who he can talk to? .... where on earth will they live & survive.....will his girlfriend & your grandchild be able to live with you?
also chatting to other teenagers with children might just encourage them all the more!!! parental wisdom required ....

[ummmm]

I had my first child at 18. It's not as hard as many people think. Youth and ignorance gets you through.

Would I want that for my kids...NO. I want them to go out and party and have stories to tell.

[Smowball]

Son and gf have done just that - baby is just 3 months old and the most gorgeous baby ever, but they have split up twice in the last 2 weeks. Too much too young.

[jan01]

having read your previous posts, some conflicting i.e i have debts & my ex had to pay them off/i have never been in debt?????......you mention your ex, your ex husband & now your new OH (of whom you mention you have ALWAYS had a soft spot for, whilst with your ex/ex husband ???) how does HE feel abot becoming a grandad so early on in your relationship whilst you still blub over your ex.........problems with your son bed wetting, floral arrangements for a party ..etc etc.. is there no wonder the poor sod feels the need to break free & attempt a little normality of his own....