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A family member (rather not be too specific), will insist on swearing and using racist terms in front of my children. #1 daughter is 2½, and is like a little sponge.
I've asked them nicely to curb their language in front of her and I've gone mental at them.
But no change in the language. Apparently "she'll learn it all soon enough" and this person is only doing it "to wind me up"...
Next stage - stop contact between this family member and the kids? Seems extreme, so does anyone have any other suggestions?
I've asked them nicely to curb their language in front of her and I've gone mental at them.
But no change in the language. Apparently "she'll learn it all soon enough" and this person is only doing it "to wind me up"...
Next stage - stop contact between this family member and the kids? Seems extreme, so does anyone have any other suggestions?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.It's totally unacceptable 2sp and you should do what ever you need to do to stop it,your kids will hear it soon enough without hearing it at that age. I worked in the mining industry for 30 years, an industry noted for hard language but it was very rare to hear that sort thing out side of work and never when kid's were around,now you hear school kids using it as part of the everyday language, a sad state of affairs.
I heartly agree with everything that's been said, 2sp, and, as a father to two (now grown-up) daughters I would never have accepted such behaviour in front of them. You don't say whether this 'person' has children of their own. I'm not suggesting retaliation, just wonder, if the roles WERE reversed, how they would feel.
You also have to consider that, when they start school, your children may meet children from other ethnic communities. As you say, kids as young as your daughter "soak up" things they hear and repeat them, usually at the most inappropriate moment. There have already been infant school pupils accused of "racial" comments.
Oh my goodness! who does this person think they are to go against your wishes when you've asked them to stop it! a friend of ours swears like a trooper (and I mean the really really nasty word on occasions) and I always panic when we're in his company when my son (2) is around - thankfully it hasn't been an issue so far as he seems to quieten it down when wee man with us. But i think you're right - family member or not - respect my wishes for the sake of my child, or don't see us until child is old enough to realise that people who aren't able to think of proper words use swear words instead..... (and i say that as a frequent swearer myself - just not in front of mine or anyone else's children). Oooooh this sort of pig of a man (?) makes me sick !