When my first husband and I divorced....

[gness]

thirty five years ago I remained friendly with his parents and relatives. I remarried and moved to Canada and ex's parents and favourite Aunt visited me, their grandson from my first marriage and my new hubby once or twice a year. On return to the UK they spent most Christmases with us and came every Sunday for dinner. I had a daughter, ex married and had a daughter...they became friends. It was great for the grandparents except that wife No2 wouldn't speak to me...silly isn't it?
Today, at ex Mil's funeral I sat at the back and held up well until the Minister said that one of the highlights of her life was holidaying with me and my new husband in Canada.
Was it an olive branch? I don't know but after the service I gave wife No2 a big cuddle and kiss and thanked her for letting that be said. I don't think she knew what to do but I wish we had done it thirty years ago so MiL could have seen, if not a friendship, no bad feeling between us.
So, a lesson.......life is too short for these petty differences that hurt other people.....and we left it to late. :-(

[lady-janine]

well done gness. i'm sure MiL knew all about today. xxx

[lcg]

egads....the living years has just made me blub all over again.....
i don't speak to any of my family (or mr kickers) except for my parents and his brother. it is just so much more peaceful that way....i can't cope with all the high emotion/bitching/drama that they all bring. they are all so poisonous....x

[gness]

Thanks LadyJ x

I know Icg.....we have a sister who we can only cope with in very small doses..simply because life has to be such a drama with her at the centre.

[DTCwordfan]

I know it isn't, sibs, we all live with the complexities of life pre the big A (or any other debilitating disease) - would say that mine has never been close (she never was, and she can be frustratingly egotistical as she always has been, be it a minor or major issue in life).