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Terrible Neighbour!!
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Some may recall my post regarding our neighbour who woke me, my partner and her 4 year old up after banging on the door and windows repeatedly because our side gate was rattling, at 3am. He approached the matter with a degree of aggression and I was quite angry at his manner.
There was a division in the replies I received, some saying this was out of order and others saying that the neighbour was fairly justified.
Anyway, several moths have elapsed and this is now not an isolated incident, leading me to confirm my original suspicions that this guy is a total a***hole!!
He has rung the RSPCA twice because our other neighbours keep 2 dogs outside between 9am-3pm. The RSPCA responded but found that the dogs had water, food and suitable shelter and therefore no action to be taken against the owners. He had alledged mis-treatment of the animals but there was none found. He simply doesnt like the occassional barking (we have barely noticed). He doesnt seem to work even though he is only 45 ish and spends most of the day at home and clearly the occassional "woof" has driven him to this action.
My car was parked a fraction over his driveway (I am talking 1 inch) this was during the snow and ice and I didnt realise I had parked a couple of yeards forward to my ususal position.
He saw me from between his blinds whe I was leaving for work the next day and I got a motuhful!
He also shouted at a neighbour for putting her wheelie bin up against his part of the wall (she did this because she was brushing leaves and didnt put the bin back straight away).
So we as neighbours are feeling a bit annoyed. It is a lovely little cul-de-sac and everyone welcomed us to the road warmly. But nobody can make a small mistake without fear of this grumpy twit making a massive deal out of it.
Ouf first encounter with him was when he shouted at my partners 4 year old for kicking a football in the garden because it hit the shared fenceline twice!!
Suggestions for our next move, do we politely speak to him about our concerns and his issues with us a s neighbours. It is not a police or ciuncil issue, yet. But these things can esculate!
There was a division in the replies I received, some saying this was out of order and others saying that the neighbour was fairly justified.
Anyway, several moths have elapsed and this is now not an isolated incident, leading me to confirm my original suspicions that this guy is a total a***hole!!
He has rung the RSPCA twice because our other neighbours keep 2 dogs outside between 9am-3pm. The RSPCA responded but found that the dogs had water, food and suitable shelter and therefore no action to be taken against the owners. He had alledged mis-treatment of the animals but there was none found. He simply doesnt like the occassional barking (we have barely noticed). He doesnt seem to work even though he is only 45 ish and spends most of the day at home and clearly the occassional "woof" has driven him to this action.
My car was parked a fraction over his driveway (I am talking 1 inch) this was during the snow and ice and I didnt realise I had parked a couple of yeards forward to my ususal position.
He saw me from between his blinds whe I was leaving for work the next day and I got a motuhful!
He also shouted at a neighbour for putting her wheelie bin up against his part of the wall (she did this because she was brushing leaves and didnt put the bin back straight away).
So we as neighbours are feeling a bit annoyed. It is a lovely little cul-de-sac and everyone welcomed us to the road warmly. But nobody can make a small mistake without fear of this grumpy twit making a massive deal out of it.
Ouf first encounter with him was when he shouted at my partners 4 year old for kicking a football in the garden because it hit the shared fenceline twice!!
Suggestions for our next move, do we politely speak to him about our concerns and his issues with us a s neighbours. It is not a police or ciuncil issue, yet. But these things can esculate!
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Reading bulb planting posts reminded me of this
Mrs. Irene G** of Boscombe, delighted the audience with her reminiscence of the German prisoner of war who was sent each week to do her garden. He was repatriated at the end of 1945, she recalled. "He'd always seemed a nice friendly chap, but when the crocuses came up in the middle of our lawn in February 1946, they spelt out 'Heil Hitler.'" (Bournemouth Evening Echo)
As for Victor Meldrew, I wouldn't let any bloke shout at me.
You should have nipped that in the bud from the get go.
Mrs. Irene G** of Boscombe, delighted the audience with her reminiscence of the German prisoner of war who was sent each week to do her garden. He was repatriated at the end of 1945, she recalled. "He'd always seemed a nice friendly chap, but when the crocuses came up in the middle of our lawn in February 1946, they spelt out 'Heil Hitler.'" (Bournemouth Evening Echo)
As for Victor Meldrew, I wouldn't let any bloke shout at me.
You should have nipped that in the bud from the get go.
JD - from his perspective you (and the other neighbours) are annoying him, not mine from his.
i do think his reaction is ott, my neighbours annoy me but i don't bother about it, its not annoying enough for me to make the effort.
for some reason it sounds like every little thing annoys him, i don;t know why maybe he works from home and its interrupting him or something, or he could be a moany sod who hates kids and other people.
maybe try to talk to him about it
i do think his reaction is ott, my neighbours annoy me but i don't bother about it, its not annoying enough for me to make the effort.
for some reason it sounds like every little thing annoys him, i don;t know why maybe he works from home and its interrupting him or something, or he could be a moany sod who hates kids and other people.
maybe try to talk to him about it
he might work from home and feels these noises are ruining his productivity.
all you can do really is speak to him ... show him that you do care about disturbing him and that you would like to sort things out
tell him that theres a way to deal with things and going in all guns blazing straight off is not the best way and rarely works
you may find that he thinks you are a nightmare and a thoughtless selfish idiot and doing things to spite him - from his point of view things may look very different - so show him that these things are not deliberate
all you can do really is speak to him ... show him that you do care about disturbing him and that you would like to sort things out
tell him that theres a way to deal with things and going in all guns blazing straight off is not the best way and rarely works
you may find that he thinks you are a nightmare and a thoughtless selfish idiot and doing things to spite him - from his point of view things may look very different - so show him that these things are not deliberate
joko, yes I can see what you mean.
My partner told me the last person who went to speak with him in that manner got told "I am a kick boxer trainer you best think again before knocking here" This was a young guy of 21 who's mother had been shouted at by out neighbour and the young lad hasnt got an aggressive bone in his body..He just isnt a nice guy... period
My partner told me the last person who went to speak with him in that manner got told "I am a kick boxer trainer you best think again before knocking here" This was a young guy of 21 who's mother had been shouted at by out neighbour and the young lad hasnt got an aggressive bone in his body..He just isnt a nice guy... period
well then an anonymous note, if you are genuine scared
but be careful not to start insulting, accusing and blaming him for things and generally telling him how terrible he is, as it will just get him annoyed, amd will not 'work'
if you want an outcome you much approach it in a certain way, even if that mean biting your tongue.
and also be open to the idea that he may be angry at you - ask him if hes ok, and why he seems to be angry at you all, invite him to discuss any issue he may have too.
dont use phrases like 'whats your problem?' etc
but be careful not to start insulting, accusing and blaming him for things and generally telling him how terrible he is, as it will just get him annoyed, amd will not 'work'
if you want an outcome you much approach it in a certain way, even if that mean biting your tongue.
and also be open to the idea that he may be angry at you - ask him if hes ok, and why he seems to be angry at you all, invite him to discuss any issue he may have too.
dont use phrases like 'whats your problem?' etc
