I'm At The End Of My Tether

[albaqwerty]

Younger son is having issues about his dad.
(we all live together, 4 of us, older sibling is his brother)
He's decided not to hand in dig money tomorrow, that's fine, he'll need it towards a deposit.

No question really, just a bit of a moan.

[ummmm]

I wonder if you post in Eds Blog linking this Q he might be able to fix it.

[2sp_]

You are not a terrible person, alba!

I think it's important if you are working and living with parents that you pay some sort of dig money to them. Even if it doesn't begin to cover the cost of living there, at least you are contributing to the household and showing respect for the people who brought you up.

I stayed with my parents when I moved back to the area after college and working away for a few years. I had a crappy job but still paid them what I could. I was grateful for them giving me a (cheap) roof over my head when I needed it the most.

I don't think you do your kids any favours by letting them live off you forever.

[DTCwordfan]

2 separate points here (2sp-s perhaps?), me thinks.

As to father-son- work at home, think that you need to get your OH at some point and when things are calm and quietly lay your cards down as to needing both of them at home from time to time for the fridge list and that they should be spending some more time together - which could be visiting Grandad together and tackling jobs at home together too, the reward perhaps some pub time or a footie match or whatever they enjoy together..... the issue is for your OH to resolve this with your son, but as long as the jobs get done, you will be more relaxed about the whole thing.

Point 2. Your son should be paying you a contribution and I would also be pointing out that £40 is nothing - outside laundry and dry-cleaning would cost him probably £25 a week minimum, food, tricity and all the rest, inc the TV licence (there's £2 a week straight out). Just point him to some of the reactions on here and that you're happy with the sum as you want to indirectly contribute on an ongoing basis to his savings towards a deposit somewhere down the line.

[tonyav]

Right, I see alba.

[biggleswade]

beautiful alba please may i move in. i will gladly pay you 40.00 per week and even buy the wine or the drink of your choice. i am house trained.

[EcclesCake]

I have no advice, I do have a cheese scone to soothe your soul though.....

Kids eh? I was one and decided not to have any from that experience........

[tonyav]

I do have a cheese scone to soothe your soul though.....


I don't suppose there is any chance is there, Eccles ?.

[EcclesCake]

Tut, tut.....

[tonyav]

I'll take that as a no then, Eccles. Doh, and I asked nicely.

[tamborine]

Happy belated birthday greetings. Kids can be thoughtless sometimes and your son will soon be remorseful. Till then let him earn his keep with home chores, so he doesnt have time to spend his earnings ;)

[joeluke]

Teenager gets all mod cons on the cheap at Hotel Mam & Dad but still takes the p1ss

Wouldn't happen in my house

[AB Editor]

Hope thats better :-)