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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.It's a hard one....I can see that kids learn behaviour from adults (and other kids), so surely as responsible adults, we can never drink, smoke, use knives for prepping food, use bleach etc etc infront of our kids. My little guy is 18 months, and he *knows* what "No" means. However, if he pushes the boundaries, then a smack on the hand won't do him any harm. I was walloped as a kid, and now at 34, have a great relationship with my Mom, and have never been in any trouble with the police etc. I learnt right from wrong, and also a respect for my elders that these days, I am afraid to say is seriously lacking. All kids are different, some repsond to a "No", some to a tap on the hand - either way, it's a matter of choice. Just as some adults respond to therapy, some to a spell "inside", we all have different personalities and each situation and person differs greatly. All the best and good comments all around, was interesting reading!
well done gevs 1966
when i was younger and more eager to condemn people based on my perception of what was right, which was usually based on opinion leaders with an axe to grind, i was against smacking entirely.
the context is all important. my mum used to offer me the choice of doing more work on the farm for a while, or a smacking. my dad never got involved in punishment per se, but could cut you down with a look. i was more frightened of him. my mum is the only one who ever smacked me (i now have a superb relationship and mutual-understanding with her) and the only time i remember being really frightened and hurt as a child was when my mum was out one evening and my dad had to change my plastic pants. he did his best, but those grating farmers fingers are no substitute for someone who's spent their life washing clothes and pots.
"do as thou will shall be the whole of the law".
very very very good luck.
I am 24 and I thanked both my parents for the way they brought me up. When I did something drastically wrong I was made to go sit in my parents room for 30 minutes before one of them came to explain what I had done wrong, I would then get a smack on the bum. I look at the kids today (and yeah sure, I am still a young person, so why not ask the younger persons point of view for a change!) you cant explain to them, all you get is "F%&# OFF!!"... as louise jones says "...then what are you going to do to them when they are older and argue back, when they rebel against you, when they are big enough to hit you back, when they smoke cigarettes, when they take drugs, when they drink, when they get pregnant as a teen, when they steal cars for joyriding, when they bully other children a lot smaller than themselves????..."
Sure I argue, but I never rebelled, never took drugs and didn't drink till I was17 because I knew the consiquences if I did!! Hell, hit my dad, would never dream of it!!
Can nobody see that this is why the youth of today have no respect, why should they listen to their elders? Nothings going to happen to them if they dont!!
Do you not think they wouldn't rebel, wouldn't get pregnant at such a young age, wouldn't take drugs if they knew what woould happen if they did!! They would have to learn to respect their elders.
Momof2 - I am sure YOUR kids will grow up to love you and respect you.
I would have a word with his parents Momof and hopefullythey'll work with you to stop this.
I am a mum of 2 girls, 4 and 14 and both of mine have had a smack if they've been out of order. Obviously the 14 year old is to old to be spanked now and we use other methods of punishment. (ie no television, grounding etc.) But when she was younger a smack on the hand or leg stopped her in her tracks before the behaviour got out of control. Now I have a polite, hard working teen and when I look at some of the other teens her age I thank God I did.
People need to realise there is a big difference between a smack and a beating. A smacked bottom is NOT abuse!
Good luck with the parenting Momof!
Good for you Momof2!
Have you tried talking to this other child's parents about his behaviour? If you do speak to them, you will have to be careful about how you word what you say as you don't want them to think that you are judging them or criticising thier parenting methods. They may not have noticed his behaviour or they may not know what to do about themselves but feel embarrassed to ask someone for advice.