Unhappy/needy Partner

[Meg888]

Hi. My partner & I have been together for 9yrs. We used to live together, but split up last year after many drunken/violent outbursts from him. He now has his own place, and has sorted himself out with the heavy drinking so we got 'back together'. We each keep our own house and now only see each other when we don't have our kids (he has two, I have one) my girl spends 3 nights each week with her dad, so I see him these nights. However, there have been a couple of occasions where she has needed to stay with me on the nights I usually see him and he gets ridiculous about it. Calls off our relationship, accuses me of not caring of his feelings etc. At a risk of sounding pathetic, I do love him but he seriously wears me down when he goes on like this - it doesn't matter what I say to him, he will not have it said that it's his own insecurities causing these feelings. He's always been a bit insecure but this past 18 months he's been ridiculous. We were getting on very well, until something important school wise cropped up this week and I told him I needed to keep my girl all week. I'm not dependant on him in any way and I've always made it clear that he will never live with me again, so it's not like I've gave him false hope. I just wish I could make him understand that he's the one with the issues not me - he see's his kids once a fortnight, and has never been close to my girl - so he's not very paternal so to speak.

[Meg888]

Thanks folks for the solid advice & support, much appreciated. He's coming over on Fri when my daughter goes off to her Dad's to bottom it out, I'm not taking his rubbish any longer, if he can't see it from my point of view then I'll go the distance - I have peace until then at least, so I'm making the most of it! I'm feeling a bit better today, my head & heart were torn yesterday so thank you x

[pizza]

Sorry Meg this guy is a selfish pig and doesn't deserve you.

End it now ! and enjoy your life, spoil your daughter and yourself, enjoy your job and don't waste anymore years on this waste of space.

[woofgang]

H's got you on a string...dump him.