Emotional

[dizmouk2009]

Tonight I told my mum that I'm out to tell my dad how I really feel about him. She was bloody agressive with me because she doesn't want me to get into trouble. Apparently my dad is a useless waste of skin who will lie to get me into trouble for example. He would call the police and say I hit him. Got I want to tell him how I feel!

[Mamyalynne]

Diz, deep breaths and try to calm - it will achieve nothing, you must know that in your heart. He is not worth it.

[dizmouk2009]

I'm a walking reck and I will tell you something, if I'm going down I'm taking him with me.

[Mamyalynne]

You won't though and he will have ruined another part of your life, walk away and know you are better than him.

[tonyav]

Please don't do it dizmouk, he really aint worth it.

[leahbee]

Have you been drinking? If you have just go to bed and tomorrow you may see things different.
No matter what this man has done to you there is nothing you can do to change it.
He sounds like a nasty piece of work but revenge is not the answer and you will be the one to come off worse.

[Kissmequik]

Well if you're in an angry mood it's better not to go, go another day when you're rational and want to vent, rant and get some answers but not to cause violence or take some kind of revenge as this will just make you angrier and drive a dep wedge between you which is counterproductive

[humbersloop]

kissmequik, are you not kenneled under that bridge yet?

It's dead comfy

[askyourgran]

Diz you are not going to achieve anything by confronting him and threatening him. Let him stew. You are all steamed up right now, but listen to your mum and stepdad they don't want you to get into any trouble, it will be you who will pay for anything that might happen, because it was you who went to seek him out. He's miles away and you should try to forget him, why give a toss what happens to the scuzzball now? Sleep on it.

[Kissmequik]

Humbersloop i'm not sure i quite follow

[dizmouk2009]

He's having it. I've just told my wife where to FU** OFF as well. All this has turned me bitter but guess what I'm stronger like this. You want some? I'm ready for any bast**d. I'm on a mission and guess what I'm going to ensure I follow through. I'm going out to clear my head, god help anyone who tried to mug me tonight because they're going to get the hard end of my fist.

Bye all.

[Kissmequik]

Good luck and god bless, i hope you find the peace you're looking for as i once did

[brandyrose]

Tonight - Doing nothing is more powerful.

If you are emotional - and upset things are unlikely to work as well - you wont be thinking straight. You need to be in control Diz and you know that. Its probably good that you came on here tonight - you know it makes sense.

I wouldn't do anything however tempting it my be to react here.
Take care.

[tamborine]

If you meet 5slags with mouths bigger than their fists, please make a wide pass as am on my way to collect them - with sick bags coz taxis wont carry them...

[rowanwitch]

Dizmouk... if you come back to this this morning.... The idea of taking a social worker with you is a good one but try to arrange the meeting in a neutral setting where there is less risk of either of you losing control. say what you need to say... let him answer without interrupting him then walk away get any more help you need then get on with your life. It took me til my early 50's to realise I am not just who I was (as others made me believe) but I am also a warm person who is actually worth loving. sounds like you have along road ahead.

[FredPuli43]

What influence does he have on your life now? If none (and it's hard to see any, apart from making you angry for some unspecified reason), why make him pleased by your 'doing something you might regret' ? Nothing would give him greater pleasure than thinking he is that important that you would assault him or to make up some story that you did, and see you carted off. And it won't look good in court. First question from the prosecuting lawyer: "Why did you travel 60 miles to see your father, when you don't like him?"