"I deactivated myself once and after a bit regretted it, but my emails to the Ed to get back in were ignored ..... !"
Some people, like yourself, deactivate by choice. We're not really able to help there - that was your choice so you have to deal with the consequences (otherwise there's not much point of having a deactivate button).
Some people have just been away for a long time, and made no contact, we deactivate automatically to reduce the size of the "active database". We can help these people out. We don't know what kind PK's friend is yet :)