Bullying From A Relation I Am Caring For.

[glenbar]

Could someone please give me somewhere to contact regarding the above. I am 72 and am at my wits end. I have left my disabled partner at home 150 miles away to care for my daughter. She has no-one else to look after her, but will not have my partner here. It is my house that I bought for her to live in as I have been living with him for years. She was living in a horrible flat so I thought it would be better for her.
Problem is she is on so many prescription drugs I don't know if they are the problem. She continually badgers the doctors to give her more.
She treats me like a hated servant and as she has a blind dog a cat who the dog hates and a parrot. I haven't had a nights sleep for six weeks now, have done my back in lifting the dog as she insists she sleeps in my bed and he either wont sleep or wakes up periodically. She drifts from talking stupid baby talk or verbally abusing me. She checks on everything I do and I simply cannot do anything right. Friends say I should simply walk out, but how can I? I should say she hasn't a good word to say for anyone and not one neighbour or acquaintance has enquired after her as she falls out with everyone.
I had to give these details as I need to know of a place I can get some advice from and it is not just a case of someone recovering from an op and being frustrated.
Thank you

[woofgang]

How you can is that you say to her that you are going home. Phone her GP and social service first and then leave.

[Mamyalynne]

I think you may have to do just as Woofgang says, you cannot carry on like this.

[glenbar]

Thank you for your interest I am truly grateful, but that's what everyone says. Trouble is she has no-one else. I know its her own fault as everyone tells me how manipulative she is but how would she cope?

[woofgang]

How is your disabled partner coping? How are you coping? If she has no help, then social services will step in if she allows it. Honestly seriously GO HOME.

[pixie373]

She will be given care through social services. Speak to the Crisis team and tell them you're leaving. She'll be looked after. You and your partner have done what you can and you need to look after yourselves,now x

[cassa333]

What is your daughter on prescription medication for?

Are the drugs making her nasty to you and neighbours?

If so go to the Dr with her and get her to give her dr permission to talk to you so that you can explain the situation and see if he can help.

Otherwise I don't know what you expect people on here to suggest!! You won't leave her, which although the sensible and right thing to do I understand you wanting to help her.

No one can wave a magic wand and make it all better for either her or you. You have to make a decision on how you can help her without killing yourself in the process and sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

Perhaps if she is bad enough you can het her sectioned? or into respite care for a while to give you a chance to go home?

[woofgang]

I wonder what happened.....