My Friend Is Gay!!!

[jd_1984]

My friend of 12 years has "come out" to his family and friends today.
I am in shock, he has had girlfriends in the past. He hasnt had a relationship for about 2 years or so now and we have actually been giving him stick about being single for so long! He had become a bit detached, we were seeing little of him but assumed he had work commitments. But he says he has struggled with his sexuality since being about 18 and only in the last year has he come to accept that he is gay. He says he now comfortable coming out.

Wow, I mean how I regard him hasnt changed, but wow I am shocked!

[ummmm]

Sad that he felt uncomfortable about coming out previously.

[mazie]

I bet he feels relieved now though JD.

[jd_1984]

It is.
Once the shock has gone away we will probably all reflect on how difficult its been for him.
We are taking him for a pint tomorrow. Nothing has changed and we are all modern men, he will not have to worry at all, he is still our very dear friend

[naomi24]

This happened to us once. A long time friend - and we hadn't a clue. I wish your friend well.

[mazie]

Good for you JD, It wont take long for the initial reaction to go xx

[jackthehat]

Perhaps you could take him to the gym with you?

[ummmm]

lol Jack..

[craft1948]

lol Jack...............I'd forgotten about that.

[Peter Pedant]

Oh God come on

It is not as though he always had two heads but ya hadnt knda noticed

[Jeza]

It took a minute for the penny to drop Jack. Now I'm chuckling to myself. (problem is I forget names but remember posts)

[pixie373]

It would be a surprise after this length of time. I'm sure he'll soon be reassured that it's made no difference to his friendships.

[pusskin]

I always say that when you know someone has suddenly outed that he is gay, that you loved him the day before you knew and why not love him now.
my friend was bawling when she told me about her son being gay, but i showed no signs of shock as I'd always thought that he was gay.
Her tears dried up quickly and she soon came to terms with it, and accepted it as i have a Nephew who is also gay. Such a shame they find it difficult to spill the beans. Must be very hard .

[4getmenot]

my friend didnt tell me until he had moved away. he was going to but we were watching eastenders first gay kiss years ago and i sat there and said 'eeeughh'. 4 years later he admitted it in a letter. i felt awful i had made him feel that he couldnt say anything. but better when he admitted snogging my ex. ha ha ha

[naomi24]

My ultra-religious friends have never come to terms with their son's homosexuality. They're convinced it's an illness that can be cured. Sad, isn't it.

[askyourgran]

Lol forget. It must have been hard for your friend jd keeping his feelings under wraps for so long. He's still your mate, and nothing has really changed, except that his partner will be in the spotlight for a while until everyone gets used to him.

[sherrardk]

I have a female friend who announced she was gay, quite out of the blue. I was surprised (given that she had been married and has children and had been dating men). Nothing changed between us, why would it?

[Jeza]

A woman up the road from me has 3 children, her partner who is also female has 2. They are both in their 40's. Strangely none of the kids visit.