Unhappiness

[magicdice]

The last six years or so have been pretty rough for me - I've been through a fair bit of stuff and never really took time to deal with any of it as it was going on. I'm now at uni, and at the start of this term I started thinking about everything. It really interfered with my work and things, and my friends were worried about me but I didn't really feel that I could discuss it with them (I'm in my first year so have only know the people around me for a few months). Eventually I ended up telling a couple of people here about it, and about a week or so after having spoken about it I started to feel better, like I was happier and had a great weight lifted off my shoulders. But I don't know what to do now, if I ought to go and speak to the college counsellor and see if that helps, or if I should just ignore things again like I did before. I really don't know, and I don't want to waste the counsellor's time, but I want to be happier for good, not just for a little while.

Any advice would really be appreciated.

[Sozzie]

To sort out any problem, you need to start somewhere, I think you should see the College counsellor, that is what they are there for. Good Luck.

[Drisgirl]

You've taken the first step and now know you can be happy again - you still have the capability.That is positive - hang on to that.Build on it and dont mention unhappy again - look to the future.Continue to talk with your new friends - this is all new for them as well.Continue to keep your student cousellor aware and have chats.

First year at Uni is a stressful time at the best of times but you seem to be coping and the friends you have will undoubtably be the friends you will have for the rest of your life..My son is completing 4th yr now and he has the same friends now he had in first year.He was like a fish out of water for a while but then everyone realises they are in the same boat.You'll be fine - promise!!

[rampart]

Your counselor will be glad to help. You will not waste his or her time.

I think what you will find is this: your healing will come from many things, not just one source. Your friends, family, counselor, and church are places where you can turn.

[Eels]

The counsellors at uni deal with this stuff all the time - starting at uni is usually a time of big change for people - both geographically, socially and in terms of lifestyle. They'll be happy to help you in any way they can.

It's no surprise this has led you to revisit some of your bad times - talking about them can help people build on their experiences, and turn bad things into positive learning experiences.

[Ethmer]

Talking to your counselor might be a beneficial idea.

If, however, you are hesitent to talk with the counselor or a close friend, then i'd suggest that you find someone from a Q&A site who you can develop an email relationship where you can sound-off without the other person taking offense.

i know that theanswerbank doesn't allow the posting of email addresses, so here is a list of some Q&A sites that do or have "inhouse" email type service:

http://www.pointask.com/pointask/pointask.html
http://www.brainformation.com/forum/index.php
http://www.ask-it-here.com/aihmain.aspx
http://www.cerescape.com/MyBrainFuse.asp