sorry i made you annoyed.
I don't want anything from you.
It's actually neither of your two proposed reasons
Just pointing out really that this is a question and answer site, not a social network per se. It's clear that you all have each others phone numbers and email addresses, so i was just suggesting that those are probably a better way to have private chats than on a question and answer site.
When i say "private" i'm not meaning things that you don't want other people to know, just conversations that exclude other people.