Sqad- "white-Knuckle Ride" Indeed!

[pixie373]

Never a truer word spoken than what you put on my last question.

Daughter arrested Friday night along with a friend for assaulting a policeman. Both girls had apparently been drinking, they lost each other while out, so my daughter asked a strange woman if she could borrow her phone (hers out of battery). The woman got concerned about missing teenage girl and called police. They picked up my daughter and when they found her friend, the two girls started pushing and shouting at each other. Police tried to separate them, so they both pushed and kicked the policemen.

They were apparently put in cells at 10:30pm, although the other mum and myself weren't called until 8am next morning.

Daughter (to her disgust) is staying at my sister-in-law this week, to keep her away from "friends" and give her time to think. I spoke to Camhs who did assessment on Friday and they said will treat as urgent.

sorry for long post. I'm not even sure i even have a question. Just feel so guilty for sending her off. But w t f do i do?!

[Eve]

Oh pixie, I'm not a parent so don't have any practical advice/experience in that sense but I hope things all work through for you both, must be a very difficult and stressful time x

[Psybbo]

Oh pixie, I really feel for you, I hope it can be sorted out xxx

[sherrardk]

Sorry to hear about this. Hope Camhs really do treat it as urgent and that your daughter doesn't get into too much trouble with the police, x

[pixie373]

Thank you, all. Very stressed and emotional at the moment. Had to go over to my sister's as i couldn't bear to see her pack and go. Just trying to keep her out of harm's way and trouble at the moment until we can get some help. Big row with OH too, who doesn't believe in any mental illness/conditions (can't see it) although he's been diagnosed with depression and anxiety himself. And other daughter unsettled and upset without sister here. Very guilty! :-(

[jno]

you've done nothing to feel guilty about, you can't keep her under lock and key (you'd probably be arrested if you did). Who'd be a parent. I still bear the scars.

[tonyav]

Hey pixie I can well understand your upset and stressed over this incident, but your NOT guilty of it.

[sherrardk]

Try not to feel guilty (easier said than done). You should be proud of the fact that you had already identified that there are issues and you were already on the road to getting your daughter the professional help she needs. Many people would have just put their head in the sand and chosen not to address the issues at all. Keeping her away from her mates whilst things get sorted is a good idea and it stops all of you saying things that you can't take back. Stay strong, I think you are doing it right (do you want me to kick your husband up the arse or will you do it yourself?) x

[pixie373]

Lol. Please feel free, sherr:-)
thank you. You are all so kind. I'm lucky that i have a supportive family, but i still wanted/needed to come here. Xx

[Sqad]

LOL...sorry pixie for the LOL, but when i read your post, I thought "been there, done it, got the tea shirt"

You know what i feel about ADHD.

Bloody teenagers, par for the course now, almost normal and dysfunctional families seem to be the norm.

My experience? 4 sons, 2 of whom were always in trouble as teenagers with the other two, easy to deal with (daughters are worse than sons).One of them hit a policeman outside a football match and he was charged with assault (or something)

It omne has teenagers now, it is just a bloody nightmare and you have to "grin and bear it."

ABers say that teenagers now are no different from teenagers of their grandparents...I say "balls", each generation seems to get worse.

If you want to feel guilty, fine, but you have other things to worry about at the moment.

There has never been such an irresponsible parent as sqad, although Mrs sqad tried her best.

[pixie373]

Thanks sqad. In an odd way that's quite reassuring and i hope that one day I'll look back on this as a brief teenage episode. I'm not quite ready for that yet, as i don't know which way it'll go. But I'll do everything in my power to get her back on track. I'm most afraid she'll get hurt, as she has no sense of danger. I do know how you feel about adhd and am quite cynical myself. But i think whatever she does or doesn't have, we need some big changes.
thank you.