Being Alone.....

[EcclesCake]

I'm catching up on this weeks Four in a Bed.

Two of the chaps have commented on finding it difficult being separated from their partners. One of them has never been away from his partner for two nights!!!! The other found spending 2.5yrs on his own prior to meeting his partner a difficult time and is finding this time away trying.

Maybe as I can spend many months separated from Mr Cake and take a night or two per week away from home as the norm I am more resilient than some. But I find it remarkable that these contestants find a night or two away being a challenge!

The occasional evening of self indulgence is wonderful and to be embraced.......not feared?!?!

Over to you agree or disagree???

[askyourgran]

I love a bit of time on my own. Now the dark nights are here and the bowling season over I'm stuck with MrAsk. I'm sure I could manage a couple of weeks without his company.....or even more come to think of it. Then again my daughter has split up with her partner and is (newly) alone and I feel so sad for her. She's putting on a brave face, but I can't help her much she lives so far away.

[EcclesCake]

I think that is the difference AYG.....choice, or at least being prepared!

[Caran]

My OH goes on holiday for two weeks every year without me. This year he went to France with his MG. Lib. He is currently researching next years holiday with them touring Germany. I treat it as a holiday of my own. Eat what and when I want. Definitely no sport of any kind on tv. And I can watch Mamma Mia as many times as I want.

[ummmm]

I don't mind being on my own but I last about 24hours before I start to pine for him.

[lankeela]

I prefer living on my own which is my choice. However some people do find it difficult to not be in a relationship but I do think two nights apart hardly represents separation. The pub landlord however I happen to know personally and he went through a very difficult time during the two and a half years due mainly to the actions of a former partner, but of course this was not explained during the programme which has to be a very condensed version of events and would not make for entertaining viewing.

[mccfluff]

i hate sharing, i like (not like) living (note living) alone

[ummmm]

lol....

[Mamyalynne]

I thought long and hard yesterday about replying to this, our situation seemed so very different, but then it did to our close friends at the time too, so if it is odd - so be t.

We were together 35 years and married for 34 of those, we spent almost everyday and night together, both working and playing as well as bringing the family up. We were very very comfortable in each others company and shared the same sense of humour amongst other things, of course we had different interests too.


Once alone after all that time, I found it difficult to settle - now 5+ years on, it has got easier of course.

Also I have a wonderful new love in my life, something I never expected in a million years.

It goes to show, we are all different and no one way of living and loving is right or wrong.

[Zeuhl]

Perhaps it's not a coincidence that an online forum such as AB has a high proportion of people who are not particularly extrovert and more than happy with their own company :-)

[nannybooby]

Sorry I must buck the trend , I like a little time on my own but I hate Living alone ,I have done this and it was better than living with someone I no longer loved.
But I was lonely a lot of the time and I love being part of a couple again .