We Are At Loggerheads....

[askyourgran]

My OH wants to move into a bungalow, and we have looked at one or two in the area he fancies, (nearer his brother) but I'm not too happy about it. What is the usual thing to do, do you sell your house first and then look for another, or do both at the same time? I'm really dragging my feet on this, I would prefer to go further south nearer our daughter but he doesn't want to leave Yorkshire.

[society]

If was me I'd look for somewhere first. If I'm sure I'll be comfortable and happy, I'll put a down payment, or speak to bank if a mortgage might be involve.

Supposing you sold your house before you found a suitable bungalow, would you have somewhere to live in the meantime?

[askyourgran]

That was my reasoning society, he thinks we should sell then look but I'd hate to be stuck without somewhere to go, or be rushed into finding somewhere. We are pensioners and wouldn't get a mortgage now I'm hoping we would get enough for ours to get another but it looks unlikely.

[woofgang]

People do it both ways, whatever suits you....but moving is stressful at best, you both have to be happy to do it and agree on the basics.Apart from wanting to move south, what are you unhappy about?

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

The frst thing you should do is sit down and openly discuss where you want to live and why and then find a compromise.
I can't imagine that you'll be happy anywhere if you didn't want to move there in the first place, so how are you supposed to get motivated about the whole affair?
I despair when people have a chance to avoid being unhappy but just shrug their shoulders and go, oh well, just my luck.

[Maydup]

Oh poor you AYG, to be honest you need to reach an agreement about location before you make any move at all. Only then will you feel comfortable about either putting your home on the market or making an offer on a new place. Can you compromise or meet in the middle?

[askyourgran]

The ones I have looked at have been OK but he has found fault with them. I think he wants to be nearer to his bro and family and I'm not that keen. Plus the bungalows we have seen are really small for the money we expect to get for ours, so we will be spending our savings (whats left of it) on the move.

[pixie373]

Do you want to move at all? I agree you need to make a decision you're both happy with, before you worry about the logistics.

[craft1948]

I sold my house first then bought my bungalow. A decent bungalow is not cheap, I paid 10k more than I got for my house, then spent 30k doing it up.

[society]

Gran, whatever decision you make you must be happy and comfortable and not stressed. Don't make the move just to please hubby. You might end up liking the place, or end up miserable and unhappy for the rest of your life.

You've given many great advice on here so I know you are a wise lady.

[askyourgran]

I like living where we are and we have no mortgage just rates to pay here. I would move into a bungalow if we can agree on the area because OH said we would be better off without the stairs. I've no quarrel with his brother and family. His wife has her family in that area too, it's just the area they live in. As Craft says there is the cost of doing up the place as you like it. It's just the decision to put the house on the market first or wait until we've found THE place to be.

[askyourgran]

Thanks society, and all. I'm off to bed to sleep on it. x