How would you handle this, other half, no hugs, not one for kissing, not one for making the first move????? Inspects you before you go out, criticizes you for helping other people, You say that she look's good when she goes out with her friends every other month, the Old fart hardly every goes out,
Maybe wife objects to you helping others in fear of you being taken advantage of; She knows your traits better than others. She inspects your dress coz she wants you to look cared for. She may not be demonstrative but shows her love by her caring for you/home/family etc. She is possessive of the world she values, that includes you. I presume she shares your bed & keeps tactile there.
I wonder if your wife resents the time you spend helping others. I appreciate you believe you are doing good but it is tiresome living with someone who starts but doesn't finish projects. If you race off to help others before addressing who and what needs attention in the home I think you may want to reflect on the needs of your family.
Dont like to see you feeling so down TWR.
I hope you can both sit down calmly and thrash it all out and get it off your chest, and hope it will clear the air and hopefully realise that you can both make each other happier! Good luck x
Sorry for my delay in answering all, I thank you all for your Advice etc, I will not choose best answer as they are all best answers, without going into detail, problem sorted, all started when I was trying to help a Mother & daughter that was having problems with their landlord, & I try to be Saint TWR. Thank you all x