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Daughter in law addressing cards from her and my son to me as "First Name"/mum
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this question goes out to any ABers under 30. My son's girlfriend of 8 years has never sent me a card of any sort to me herself. However, when she sends cards jointly from my son and her she always addresses them to Mum/"my first name". She didn't sign my birthday "Mum" card this year. Our Christmas card (to me and my husband) was addressed Mum and Dad , "My First Name"and My husband's first name". Is this normal? I find it quite hurtful. I know I am not her actual mother. However, yesterday, she and my son got married. I really love this girl. She is perfect for my son and we get on well. They sent a thank you card addressed to Mum and Dad, "my first name" "husband's first name". I think she is being really ridiculous. I don't want any more cards signed like this really. It just makes me disappointed. As a bit of background, her mother divorced from her father when she was 18 months. She doesn't refer to her stepdad as dad....and gets quite irate when my husband refers to her parents, meaning her mum and stepdad. Where I come from parenting is not just about who is your genetic parent... Sorry this is such a rant. I would thank you for your comments.
this question goes out to any ABers under 30. My son's girlfriend of 8 years has never sent me a card of any sort to me herself. However, when she sends cards jointly from my son and her she always addresses them to Mum/"my first name". She didn't sign my birthday "Mum" card this year. Our Christmas card (to me and my husband) was addressed Mum and Dad , "My First Name"and My husband's first name". Is this normal? I find it quite hurtful. I know I am not her actual mother. However, yesterday, she and my son got married. I really love this girl. She is perfect for my son and we get on well. They sent a thank you card addressed to Mum and Dad, "my first name" "husband's first name". I think she is being really ridiculous. I don't want any more cards signed like this really. It just makes me disappointed. As a bit of background, her mother divorced from her father when she was 18 months. She doesn't refer to her stepdad as dad....and gets quite irate when my husband refers to her parents, meaning her mum and stepdad. Where I come from parenting is not just about who is your genetic parent... Sorry this is such a rant. I would thank you for your comments.
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I think this situation is different for mothers of boys as mothers of grils have the cards written by their daughters where as mothers of boys have all cards written by their DILs.
Its not natural for DILs to call their MIL Mum these days, but they ought to get their husbands to write the birthday card for their mother's birthday. That way it would say Mum in a...
Its not natural for DILs to call their MIL Mum these days, but they ought to get their husbands to write the birthday card for their mother's birthday. That way it would say Mum in a...
19:14 Sun 03rd Jun 2012
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