He wants me to divorce him

[seshat]

I and my husband have been married for one year, we were married in a Catholic church as he is Catholic and I am Church of England. I was married previously, a long time ago when I was young. This was a mistake and the marriage was annulled. Now for some reason my husband says he wants a divorce as I am boring and like a monkey around his neck! He knows I do not want a divorce but says I must divorce him and I have a track record of failed marriages. I am deeply hurt by this, I love him dearly and think we can work things out but he wont even try. He said he did not want to get married to me anyhow and he only did it because his dad wanted us to get marreid and said he only had 5 years to live! I am also hurt by this as he let me go through the pain of the annullment derdging up all manner of things from the past so we could get married.
I told him if he really did want a divorce he must file for a divorce from me as I will not file for a divorce from him as I do not want a divorce as I love him dearly. He got very annoyed and said I was lying and I should file for a divorce from him. I think he is doing this because I had been married before and he wants other people to think it is my problem and not his.
Do you have any advice on this matter please? I feel so desperately upset as I love him so much.

Thank you.

[seshat]

Thanks again everyone. Yes, I am going for the councelling option and if that fails then it's up to him....

Thank you :-)

[Kiki-frog]

Good luck, seshat, let us know how you get on. x

[Paul22118]

Simple and clear advice. Dump this pillock immediately and get on with your life. It cannot be possible to love someone who does not reciprocate that love. Look in the mirror, grow up and get a life. I mean that sincerely.

[jazzie07]

Since he doesn't want to file the divorce himself let it be, don't ever file it yourself let him do it for if he really wants to get out of this marriage he will find ways to do it. If by chance you'll need to know more about legal matters you can visit http://www.famlawcal.com/about-us/san-diego-divorce-lawyer/