Opinion Please Again

[Connemmara]

Left wedding card (through the door - no answer to my wrapping) with money of course in it for my friend's son and future daughter in law. Now my friend is very sick fighting cancer so I am leaving this one alone.

She rings me last Night and thanks me for the present - I coudn't believe it - what was wrong with the son

He was there all right. Do no young ones say thanks for anything anymore. I am disgusted but I would never hurt her!!!!

[Connemmara]

i guess you are right my friend is a bit of a fuss pot bless her

[Mamyalynne]

I was always taught that the greater my expectations in life then the greater the disappointment when they didn't come to fruition.


Nice to be thanked but I never feel slighted at the lack of it - simply move on and make my decision for next time.

[anneasquith]

when is the wedding conn ?

[Connemmara]

you are right Mamy - I started buying my neighbour 's grandchildren first 3 now they have extended to 10 I have cut right back. No no no.

Me that hasn't give birth to chick nor child.

Have been buying children's gifts for about 40 years now and engagements and wedding - OMG I have lost count and want to lose count.


Anne it is on Sat hopefully without rain LOL

[black_cat51]

i didn't realise the wedding hadn't happened yet. I too think they will thank you afterwards. I am like other posters - if i don't get a thank you they don't get a present next time

[anneasquith]

conn, why not just send cards ? I think you have been very generous through the years,

[Connemmara]

anne when I was young worked hard and no money but when I saw the state of my mum when she had no money I SWORE to myself that when I grew up and had money - that my mum would never cry over having no money again and she never did. I also think that if you are kind to a person you reap it back in threefolds.

Like the workmen - they have contacted me 3 times to see if anything more needs to be fixed in kitchen etc.

[anneasquith]

well I agree with you conn, its nice to be able to give gifts to family/friends. but when it comes to any celebration I always think a card is more important than anything,

[EcclesCake]

You really are speaking with a forked tongue Conne.

I am however quite sure you will be thanked after the wedding as is tradition.

[boxtops]

Personally, I didn't send any thank-yous until after the wedding had taken place - then sent them all at once.

You ARE generous, conne, to a fault, IMO - I'm not surprised your workmen are asking you if you've got any more work needs doing, the rest of us don't tip like you do, your name must be legendary amongst the workmen.

We're just about to start work in our house - I'm paying the company, the individual workers won't get anything else for doing their job.

[boxtops]

...and just seen your post, you clearly don't feel that you get it back threefold if people don't thank you for it. You don't know the bride and groom? I wouldn't even be going to the wedding, let alone giving a generous gift!

[Connemmara]

anne you gotta get real - a card means nothing to them - they rip the card and search for the money (seen it all)

Eccles I come down upon you as the Holy Spirit and speak to you with forked tongue LOL bye on this post.

[sherrardk]

You sound like you give gifts begrudgingly, maybe that is obvious and makes people feel awkward?

[anneasquith]

sher, I think conn is actually a very kind person.

[Connemmara]

thank you so much anne - i had said my good byes but scan is running.

Don't need to justify myself to anybody but I am kind and genuine and would (if I could) help you as best as I could.

What I portray on here is for your reader's perception. I am me and you are you. that is for you Sherrard.