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A BIG thank you to all of you who gave me advice, criticism and comments. I apreciate it very much.
I had a long hard think last night and, combined with your input, I came to 2 conclusions -
I realise that I do come across sometimes as aggressive rather than assertive, and I need to look hard and long at this. It will be work in progress as I am 63 and old habits etc.
Treading softly as opposed to going in with all guns blazing, can, in the longer term, achieve more.
Work in progress!
The meeting went much better than it could have due to me taking a less confrontational approach. A complaint had been made by the Manager I mentioned previously who referred to me as "the driver" She heard me cursing her (my language can be a little colourfull at times!) over something she did that increased my work load unneccesarily. Once I had explained the full background, my line manager was surprisingly understanding and took my point. Once I apologised to him for the incident, the situation was defused and all is back to "normal".
The meeting WAS intended as a disciplinary procedure but it was not necessary to start talking about "rights" etc, once we talked and the situation was defused. I don't think this would ahve happened if I had taken a more aggressive stand.
I'm not going to give up on my quest to get them to see what is wrong and where some, frankly, criminal waste is happening, and where there is a lack of respect and consideration for some employees. I'm going from conventional to guerilla warfare as cassa suggested!
Thanks again to all of you
Miles