Feeling So Utterly

[Purple_Popple]

Peed off.

[DTCwordfan]

That risks gall bladder problems if you keep that rate of weight loss, masma - I know from my own divorce.

If I was in your shoes, I would go with your O/H and counsel with the AAs, the CAB or even the police as to the best action - they do have experience. Maybe a shock, such as an arrest on verbal or physical abuse, is needed to pull him back onto the tracks. There may also be deeper issues to that are undermining him and why he has gone back to the ethanol.....

[Purple_Popple]

I have many times told my family and friends how im feeling but somehow im made out to be the unreasonable one if I dare to let off steam so ive stopped talking about what bothers me. It also seems lately if you're not part of a couple you're not included in anything, or treated like a spare part...who do you let off steam to without a partner and who do you tell about your day when you get home? :(

[anneasquith]

AB :)

[masma]

He's been going to a help group which has been very good - they'd even asked him to think about becoming a peer mentor in the future. I don't think (hope) he would be violent.

[quizzkid]

Don't let them put you down and make you feel like you are being unreasonable. Just hold your head high and tell yourself I deserve better and I am not going to let you put me down. They will never admit they are wrong and next time your friend calls do as I explained and when you call her back say sometimes I need you to listen to my problems I will always be here for you but it has to work both ways. Don't beat yourself up over this start to enjoy your own company and don't let others put you down. Good luck.

[DTCwordfan]

Well masma, you may have to pick your moment carefully to when he is sober and broach this with him, pointing out his positives (like the potential mentoring) and then tackling his behaviour when influenced. Is there one or two of his close friends that you could use as intermediates as well. They must also be concerned - or will be.

[masma]

He hasn't any friends all he really has is us, and to a point, his sister, she'll do all she can for him but worries more about us.
Popple - families eh? Who'd have 'em. Hope you're begining to feel a bit better xx

[DTCwordfan]

Maybe she is the best one to nip this in the bud, masma......good luck. I'm heading out for lunch in a minute to give the mater a treat, or rather myself, as she won't remember where she has been by tea time! x

[masma]

His sister would confront him but I don't want them falling out - I'm such a f**t! Have a good lunch DT.