How Do I Make The Change From Party Girl, To Fun And Sophisticated Girl

[Cocacolaaa]

I've been a DJ for years. I'm young, female and now I want to meet a nice guy. My facebook is full of club photos, crazy pics, parties and history.

I want to meet a nice guy, and I don't want him to be scared away from me, by thinking I only want party, not reliable or possibly even think I was into drugs. I want to meet a nice man who would be interested in taking me away from my younger years, accept me for who I am, and my history, but both have the same goals, of a prosporous future together.

I'm not doing well on the dating front, becasue everyone is too young, immature, only want sex (i feel used by this attitude) and no one wants any type of commitment.

I am actually an attractive young female, but I do not want anymore waste of time relationships, I don't want guys who only want sex. I want to meet someone special.

Should I delete my facebook and start again...? I have a lot of friends on there, being a DJ my friends is set to the 1000 mark. lol... I just don't know how to make the change, from party girl, to sophisticated and still interesting fun person. My life has changed, I no longer party like I used to... So this change is needed, and is what I want out of life. Have you any suggestions?

[ummmm]

Don't delete your history; that's not being yourself.

There's nothing wrong with being a party girl. The more history a person has can often mean they are more interesting.

Just be a nice person :-)

[Kathyan]

If you delete your facebook page as it is, you will be starting a new relationship based on a lie. We have all done things that we're not proud of or embarrased by, but it's all part of life. I have done loads of stuff that I now wish hadn't happened but I met a guy who loves me for who I am now and we've been married for nearly 17 years!

[Old_Geezer]

I tend to agree that if you find someone they should want to be with you for who you are. You imply you have both fun and serious sides to your personality, in which case why not edit your pages to show more of your more serious side ? But in any case one has to meet folk "in real life" and there one can get to know someone better directly and be less influenced by Net presence anyway. Get out and meet folk. Maybe tone down the social whirl type events and look more towards going to the theatre or concerts. You say that is a smaller part of your present life anyway. Join a club where activities are not revolving around drink and dancefloors. Maybe go with your older friends who may now have more in common with your own interests. It depends on what interests you. Meet folk in the right setting and you're more likely to find a match you might want to take a chance on.

[factor-fiction]

I am not sure that having a Facebook page is necessary. If you meet people online there are always risks of incompatability, misunderstandings, etc. Just be yourself in real life and on Facebook as well if you need to keep it

[Dee Sa]

good luck and remember that Mr Right is out there somewhere looking for someone just like you.

[joggerjayne]

Don't try to change who you are.

If you try to suppress your fun side, you will end up unhappy.

To some people, "sophistacated" just means "a bit boring".

Be yourself. You sound great.

[joko]

just delete some of the pics etc - you dont have to have your whole life on public display, so nothing wrong with deleting any pics you feel portray you in a way you dont want to be seen - we all have pics we would rather bin

[grasscarp]

You have asked us the question yourself Should I delete my facebook and start again. Well if you want to obliterate parts of history, drop the crazy photos etc then why not. It is going to be a lot easier than editing and does allow you to change your image to the new you that you want to become. You are an evolving person so why be tied to the way you were.

[lcg]

don't be ashamed of your past - you cannot undo things and they make you the person you are today. you cannot 'reinvent' yourself, unless you kind of did a witness protection-standard change of lifestyle and frankly, i could not be bothered. any decent man will recognise that you are right for him by looking and conversing with you - not looking at spacebook or your photo albums. so you lived it up for a while and now want to settle down - no big deal, just get on with it and focus your energy on finding that man......but never apologise to anyone about who you are......if they don't like it or tell you to change, they ain't worth it x

[joeluke]

'My facebook is full of club photos, crazy pics, parties and history.'

They say a picture paints a thousand words so maybe that's why you only attract men who are 'too young, immature, only want sex'

They take one look at your facebook and think it's their birthday

Dump the facebook page

[beso]

Fact is you ARE an unsophisticated party girl.

Don't pretend to be what you are not.

[Cocacolaaa]

I am not unsophisticated, I am quite sophisticated... I can be both.

I think I will make some changes, but it's true what you say, be yourself! Always be yourself, and at some point someone will love US for who we are.

[Cocacolaaa]

It is also very important to love yourself. I think I like myself more these days. I am defo more satisfied and happy with myself and my lifestyle these days, as to when I was younger, and even more wild.

I'm just not doing very well finding a nice man to share my times with x

[cassa333]

I don't know much about fb etc but can you change your settings or something so that only your close friends see the party you and the public see a more sophisticated you?

If all you post is party party party girl then perhaps you could post the other side of your life as well. I don't mean give your whole life out but ballance the two sides of you. Post less outragous things such as ... Had a lovely quiet meal with family. or ... spending the weekend relaxing with a nice book and ER reruns.... Or looking forward to a walk by the lake and a picnic later.

We all change as we grow up and older and there is nothing to stop you showing that on your social media sites. I think it is good that you have realised there is more to life then partying :)