Help!

[fiona_88]

I am 26 years old. I am in a domestic relationship, mentally. I am being totally dragged down the ground. It is getting worse and worse as time goes on and I don't know how much more of it I can take. The only problem is, I literally have NOWHERE to go. I can't go to my mums, or my dads, I have no friends around me who I can stay with as they all live too far away. Can anyone give me some advice as what to do to get emergency accommodation? its that's bad now, that I have packed a bag with my essentials so that if we have another flare up(which is bound to happen again anytime soon), I can just grab my bag, and go. I have a dog too, and I know not many places will allow dogs. I'm in a total rut and I just don't know what to do. I've even thought about just ending everything as I am giving up. HELP

[shoota]

I think that your dog problem will be a common one and that a mechanism will be in place to lodge dogs somewhere, if not with you at the refuge.
Talk to the helpline - they will know.

[fiona_88]

my mum wont allow me. ive asked and asked till im blue in the face. crazy I know, but she just wont.

[DTCwordfan]

I would have a word with them though - as a father, I would be very upset if I found out that my daughter needed such help and didn't approach me, even if it means using the sofa. As ummmm says, time to get things sorted out...

[murraymints]

Phone local council..they will give you contacts ...you must must must think of yourself.you are young give yourself a chance , xx

[fiona_88]

awwh thanx murraymints :) if only! n mum wont have me, ive asked and asked til im blue in the face but nope, she wont. crazy I know, as she knows what im going through yet stil wont let me lodge for a while.......

[albaqwerty]

Right, mum and step-dad's ruled out.
How about Dad?
Although your pals are not local, couldn't one look after the pooch whilst you stayed at Dad's, albeit on his sofa?

[murraymints]

Fi darling..you have to think of your safety..even if you have to call the local polis !

[beso]

Don't wait for a flare up. Better to get going when you are not in a highly emotional state.

You must get out before it destroys you.

[jakep]

Yes, get out now while you can think straight. As someone has previously posted, Dogs Trust Freedom Project will help with your dog.
Been there. You will have a life but it takes a lot of courage to make the first move. All the best to you.

[cassa333]

Do you have any funds?

If not start saving a bit NOW.

Getting out of the situation is the first thing you need to do but even if you are kipping on a friends sofa you sill need to feed yourself and your dog so look into how you will eat as well as were you will sleep :)

[pixie373]

Are you working? Is there a reason you can't stay "too far away"? I agree with the others. Hard though it is, you need to get out asap. Speak to the council /housing association/social services /CAB and make sure they know how urgent it is.

[san070160]

I'm Fi's Mum!

just been reading all the answers to Fi's dilemma and it seems she's made it look like we don't care, which is simply no true! We warned her about how the situation would end,but she just wouldn't listen. Anyway, we have just found her a nice, cheap one-bedroom Studio Flat a 2 minute walk from where she works. we're also arranging for various pieces of furniture etc. The reason she couldn't stay with us is that she insisted on bringing her dog. But we have a dog of our own and they couldn't possibly be left in the house together a any time, which she actually agreed with. So I just wanted to make it clear. WE DO CARE!