Gay Marriage And A Dilema?

[jd_1984]

Ok here is a scenario to consider.
A catholic woman, regular worshiper and a person or real faith has a brother who is gay. The brother wants to embrace his new legal rite to marry his long term partner and they are currently making plans.
As the sister, how do you tackle this dilema of faith vs conscience.
She adores her brother, but has never agreed with his life choices and sexuality. She does not agree with homosexuality and she worries about the effect it will have on her long standing and un-wavering religious faith. She has however, always stood by him. But can she attend the wedding? Should faith step aside for one day so she can stand and support her brother?
This is the dilema of my GF's friend.

[anneasquith]

Naomi,,,,,,,,,,we will agree to disagree on that.

[hc4361]

As she is a Catholic she won't recognise the ceremony as a marriage as it won't be in a Catholic church officiated by a priest.

She should go to the wedding with a clear conscience and let her god be her brother's judge. Family is very important in the Catholic faith and she needs to be there.

[ladybirder]

I hope your GF's friend never has a child who is gay. How would she handle that I wonder?

[ummmm]

I'm Catholic (brought up as) and my son is gay. Not one single member of my family have passed judgement. Including my 'born again' mother.

[joggerjayne]

That's nice, ummmm ... isn't life so much easier when everyone accepts everyone else, and we all get on with it.

[naomi24]

I have Christian friends whose son is gay. They are convinced his 'illness' is the work of the devil, and equally convinced it is ‘curable’. They are distraught.

[joggerjayne]

Enlightened places to live ... or move to ...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-sussex-26783542

[ladybirder]

Bet their son is not too happy either Naomi.

I know some children get disowned by their parents. Unchristian christians.

Good to hear Ummmm, that's how it should be.

[naomi24]

Ladybirder, they love him dearly and remain on good terms with him - but he lives his own life. Their bible-thumping Baptist church doesn't help. They've been told that their son is committing a sin worse than paedophilia - and nothing I say can convince them he is not destined for eternal damnation. So many tears have been shed. Seeing them cry makes me cry. Just relaying the story here upsets me. It's all so very sad.

[ladybirder]

[ i ] they've been told their son is committing a sin worse than paedophilia [ i ]

Words fail me. What a terrible story, I am so sorry Naomi. A tragedy for all concerned.

[sandyRoe]

Naomi's post at 12:44 has knocked the wind right out of my sails. That's the reality of religion and it makes my attempts to tease the goodly unGodly seem silly.

[naomi24]

Ladybirder, awful, isn't it? The parents are so afraid - that's the tragedy.

[wolf63]

Naomi - it is frightening that anyone could feel that way about their child.

This is a sad story too - http://www.cbsnews.com/news/prosecutor-mom-killed-son-4-because-she-thought-he-was-gay/

[naomi24]

wolf, it's what they've been brainwashed into believing.

[ummmm]

That is so sad, Wolfe. Poor little mite :-(

[ummmm]

Naomi - atheists can also be homophobic.

[naomi24]

Ummmm, this is rather more than homophobia.

[ladybirder]

You've gone quiet id_1984. Will you be passing on the replies to your GF's F? What do you think she should do?