Boys parental rights

[Pumpkinmommy]

My son is a good kid he is working on his own just down the road he's 19 Jan of this year he found a girl 18 who told him how bad her life was with her familyso he move out of our house and moved her in just from the very beginnning she has done nothing but lied to him and his family she is not a mature 18 year old she selfish hateful and liar that is being nice shes move in out she told him when he tried not to see her no more that she tried to commit sucide because she lost best thing she ever had so he kept see her to protect her from her self she left again told every one he beat her one night hes never lifted a hand on her he said it really is over three days later she bring over pre. test and its positive now she want him to be a father but problem is we do not know who the father is lets say she been around before and after there relationship does my son have any rights we told her we would pay for blood preg test and the dna test that she can get while she is 13 week - 20 week but she calls him weekend father says no her family will do it the blood pre test not the other she says they will after the baby born but parents have not called about so i dont know if they even knowwhat can we do he even says if he have to he will marry her he doesnt want to be weekend dad and hes name on the birth certificate should he before we find out? We raised are boys to take on their responsiblity but its wise if he didnt marry her 3 month she almost destroyed him

[dancecaller]

From what you say, no he shouldn't marry her.

But I don't think you should tell him that either. Give him the chance to talk it through and reach his own conclusions

Will she go with him to Relate http://www.relate.org.uk/ ? Maybe, if she wont, it could help if you went with him, trained people may be able to put forward options you haven't thought of.

Let him know he's got your love whatever he decides

And maybe think yourself how much support you are in a position to give. You want to back him up, but no use offering more than you can manage. Or offering to quickly and ending up being taken for granted.

Try not to run the girl down too much and make your dislike too obvious, there must be a reason she is like this. If they do marry you want to still be in touch with them.

What a problem for you. There doesn't seem like any "happy ever after" answer to it. You have my sympathy

[Pumpkinmommy]

Thak you for posting we let him know we are with him what ever he decides even going with her she probley wouldn't go because it probley won't benfit her But will stick with him. The resson shes like this is do to the family is just like it. and allow her to do anything she wants they haven't even contacted us to find out what my sons plan is thank you for the website i'll show to him and let him decide to tell her about the program.