I know a person who is kind, generous, Intelligent, brilliant organiser, witty and regular all-round solid person, but he always seems to have difficulty looking straight at you. I'd really love to know if there was a reason, perhaps it's a characteristic formed early on in life. I can't see that anything significant can be read into it, I now accept it's just the way he is.
Does anyone know of someone similar?
Yes I do Khandro. Nice guy but doesn't like eye contact, doesn't like confrontation so I don't know if that has anything to do with it, must be something in their childhood that has made them like this?
Yes Khandro - my sister's friend - a very very funny person - just talks dead-pan but the way she says it - one goes into convulsions. Again all done without her hardly looking at your face. But because of the laughter you don't care.
dunnitall; That's fascinating point! This person I mentioned also avoids confrontation, and now I think about it, someone else too, and yet neither of them are pussy cats, just hate confrontation.
ummm; Would that apply to your son?
It took ages for me to convince my eldest son that he should "look people in the eye" instead of "checking out their shoes".
Some people can't afford good shoes and staring at their shoes could be embarrassing for them :-)
Now he is a very confident young man.
ummm; Perhaps he doesn't feel inferior. I really think we are on to something with this non-confrontational thing, does he avoid argument?
Of the two men I mention, one was a company director and the other an actor of stage and screen, neither of them are shrinking violets, but I now realize that they will both avoid argument at all cost, unlike (I'm ashamed to say) yours truly :0)
Khandro, like the chap I know, he will avoid arguments like the plague, will walk away if necessary and doesn't particularly like to oppose other peoples views. Seems there's a theme to some of this, background or mild autism maybe? Just don't know myself.