I'm Quite Grumpy

[2sp_]

An older female relative (mentioning no names...) is getting on my nerves.

Keeps promising the kids that she'll come visit or take them for a walk etc and never shows up. I'm then stuck with having to explain to the kids what has happened and dealing with any tears (they are 2 and 4).

And if she does come over, I feel she undermines my parenting in a kind of passive aggressive manner. If I tell the kids off for something, she will interfere and try to cover for them or distract them away from me with a treat of some sort. Almost like she is trying to protect them from their horrible mother (me)...

Not really looking for answers, as I know that the most obvious one is to just tell her but that's really not an option. Just wanted a bit of sympathy and some other tales of interfering "older female relatives"...

[gness]

Gosh!!! MIL has got me best answer....thank you....☺

After our inevitable divorce both MIL and my mother together contrived to have my son taken away from me by the most horrendous lies....they got a neighbour to take down the number of any car that visited me and told SS that I was...well a prostitute really....I went out once a week with a friend who was the wife of a minister....they phoned her anonymously and said her husband was picking me up for a date...once a week....the day we went out together.....☺

Now....I don't forgive but I never resort to bitterness, nastiness and name calling.....only because that leads to wrinkles....and I am trying to avoid those.....so when I met someone else and we moved to Canada I invited both MIL and my mother over to stay....to their surprise......☺

I am still getting *** wrinkles though....... :-(

[rockyracoon]

My OH lost his mum when he was seven so I don't have to deal with older female relatives, my mum is easy to cope with as she is my mum, but to deal with someone else would cause all sorts of problems, there would probably be plenty of rowing in Chez Racoon.

[gness]

Golly....I didn't swear!!!!!

[askyourgran]

You must have had a bad paper round Gness to get the wrinkles. x

[2sp_]

Holy poop, gness!!!!!

Just when I think that you can't possibly have any more life stories to share...

[anneasquith]

easy to say, but try not to let it bother you. remember they are YOU'RE. children.................I had a MIL. I got rid of her :)

[2sp_]

Bury her under the patio, anne?

Not that I'm saying this is about my MIL, I prefer the ambiguous term OFR...

[anneasquith]

ha ha . if she disappoints the children again. just tell them she is polishing her cauldron :)

[2sp_]

Excellent response, anne!

[sherrardk]

That's one up side of not having either a MIL or mother, no interfering - although my mother did once say my house was like an orphanage and at the time there was only three of them (and I knew I was pregnant).

[2sp_]

Only you, sher, could say "only three of them" when referring to your children!

[sherrardk]

:)