Sympathy Card

[jakep]

A friends Mum has died. Should I write the card to her alone, her and her husband or the whole family.
Thank you for your input.

[2sp_]

I would address it to her, but say that I'm thinking of her and the rest of the family too.

From my own experience losing my Dad, it was more the fact that someone had sent a card than what they had written that was important to me.

[Ken4155]

The wife of a friend of mine died recently and, as i knew them as a couple and shared many occasions with them over the years, rather than a card of condolence (which imho are rather impersonal) i wrote him a letter of condolence. And, in it, i expressed my sympathy to their 2 sons and their daughter.

[Old_Geezer]

I'm unsure it makes a lot of difference; it's the thought that counts. But I like the idea of making her the prime recipient and mentioning others in the family also. You can always write a piece in it (or include a loose note with it) if you wish to express more.

[jourdain2]

I have always sent one to the main person (or couple) I know, but expressed sorrow for the rest of the family at that time.

[TheWinner]

Say your friend and husband were called Sue and John.
I would put, To: Sue, John and all the family, we were so sorry to hear the sad news about your mother (her name here).
It's always nice to add a personal note as to what you will remember her for e.g. her kindness or whatever.

[pixie373]

I would certainly address it to all the family, if you've at least met them. If not, address it to your friend mentioning the rest of the family, as others have said.

[pixie373]

- although I might add in an extra message for my friend, to let me know if I could do anything/pop round etc.

[pusskin]

To your friend, and include all her family too.

[granny grump]

I hate sympathy cards but you can get some lovely 'thinking of you cards' and a few kind words mean so very much

[jakep]

Thank you all for taking the time to post a reply. I will address it to her and mention her husband and sons.