The Top Five Regrets.....

[boxtops]

This is a little sobering for this time of the morning, but gives considerable food for thought. Would you agree with this nurse's experience of her patients' deathbed regrets?

Personally, although things didn't go very well during some patches of my life, I don't have these sort of regrets at the moment.... however I do wish I'd known what we now know, to have been able to have seen some family things differently, but that wasn't within my gift at those times.

http://earthweareone.com/nurse-reveals-the-top-5-regrets-people-make-on-their-deathbed/

[boxtops]

I'd like to have been able to play a musical instrument. I tried the piano, and the guitar, but I don't don't have the natural aptitude for it. And I wish I'd learned to swim as a child. I can just about make a wdith now with huge grown-up arm bands (don't laugh), but I don't like the water at all.

[McMouse]

Always look to the future, not the past. Regrets are pointless.

[boxtops]

^ but they're not really regrets - not being able to do those things doesn't affect my otherwise being happy.

[anneasquith]

no disrespect boxy. but people on '' their death bed'' are invariable unconscious,,,,,,,, so I don't quite believe the article.

[ABAuntie]

Very poignant. I tend to agree with squad if you have made a decision based on all the available info at the time then right or wrong you have to live with the results and make the best of it.

Life is too short to think about what ifs.

Plus most people posting here are many years away from deathbed worries and still have time to make a difference, hope so anyway :-)

auntie xxx

[boxtops]

Anne, I understand what you say, but having worked in the hospice movement, I know that the nurses are privy to a lot of personal outpourings from patients nearing the end of their lives. Perhaps the expression "deathbed" conveys too much those last moments, not the last few weeks or days.

[Cloverjo]

I don't believe the article. Sadly, my mum is about to enter palliative care, and I am sure that regrets about what she did or didn't do with her life are the farthest things from her mind right now.

However, I think the article is helpful for those of us still with full use of our minds and bodies to encourage us to make the most of our time here.

[Slapshot]

I don't know, I think there are always decision we'll regret or is the phrase rue not taking the other option?? I always regret not taking that chance to play pro sport when it was offered, I never expected it would last so didn't go for it but I wish I'd taken the shot at it.

I think regrets are part of human psyche, maybe just a reluctance in facing up to wrong decisions