Getting Happy And Staying Happy?

[flobadob]

Is the a point or general age in most people's lives were they become happy and contented with their life and what they have, even if it wasn't what they planned, or is it very different for different individuals?

[Mamyalynne]

I don't think you can pin it down - different for all.

We had reached the stage when children were grown and settled,businesses ticking over and enough spare to do things we enjoyed. Then along came Cancer and 3 years of constant hospital visits, then I was planning a funeral.

Six years on, I am happy in a different way, I am loved and cared for - so am I happy now? Yes.

[flobadob]

I sometimes feel that if you don't let yourself get too happy then the sad times won't be as bad. But that in itself leads to issues.

[David H]

Breaking all the rules of my spiritual teachers, I still distinguish between good and bad (although they accept we must until we become enlightened, so am only working within my own levels). That means any dissatisfaction with the present is directly related to the past, where besides the stress of having to take exams and courses, I lived in a family house and supported with local friends around me, and was then expelled into a less affluent area, living alone and pretty much left to my own devices while at home, with no known way of bringing back that family system. On top of that the only other family I spent time with (since 1972) were three generations of my friend's family nearby, who suddenly left the country after I'd been living on my own for about 9 years.

This meant that most of the foundations of my quality of life had now gone, besides my close family, and by 2009 that went down to only my parents, who live opposite sides of London and have done for a long time. My entire plan would be to return to the days of the 60s and 70s, ideally in the same area, with a new set of people and as you cannot control who you meet and what they want then it's at least 50% out of my hands. I was ready for marriage since 1984 and haven't even come close so no, I don't believe you can plan much, as the most important thing in life are people and you have very little control over them.

[woofgang]

flobabdob absolutely not. The one thing that sustained me when I was really in the dark was the thought of all that we had done and enjoyed and the incontrovertible fact that I have loved deeply and been loved in the same way.

[China Doll]

That's beautiful woofgang. (Not sure if you meant it to ve but it is).

Sometimes the happiest of events can also make you tbe saddest because there can be a period of change and adjustment and you have to go through nthe change to get to the happiness - on reading that back it sounds likd waffle but I know what I mean :-)

[woofgang]

so do I China (know what you mean)

[LoisKnight]

I think people are able to be happier when they have a higher level of consciousness. For me it is about knowing that sometimes it is okay not to be okay and not putting too much pressure on yourself. I choose to be happy!

This helped me

http://www.theministryofinspiration.com/

[woofgang]

Kind of can't agree with you there....I suspect that cows in fields are happier than I am because they have a lower level of consciousness.