Do You Over Mother Your Sons?

[ummmm]

It's on TV now.

I don't. (although my other kids might argue that statement when it comes to my youngest)

I will argue with my daughters boyfriends but will back up my sons girlfriends.

Do we treat our daughters different to our sons?

[andy-hughes]

I guess we do treat them differently - but that is because they are different.

Girls are independent from an early age, and puberty commences a fractious relationship with their mothers because mothers see all their faults writ large in their teenage daughters, and what will make them close as adults can make them fight as adult and teenager.

Girls are often close to their fathers because they mirror the character facets that makes their dad love their mum.

Boys usually develop a close bond with their mothers, which continues without interuption into adulthood, so an element of that natural protectiveness that any mother has for any child of either gender, continues.

Boys can often have fractious relationships as they develop into adulthood because some men do not adapt well to another 'male' in the house - but these are generalisations, and I appreciate that.

So yes, we do treat them differently, but that is the way nature made us - and them.

[Daffy6543]

My son (17) is the spoilt one of the 3, especially with material things. He has a desktop PC, a brand new gaming laptop, an Xbox 360 and a PS3 of his own as well as 3 handheld gaming consoles and two smartphones :-/
I think that it is mainly because he is the youngest and the only one left at home. My middle child (daughter, 25) says I am ruining him because I don't make him wash up or do any other chores, she's probably right.

[anneasquith]

over mother ?

[kvalidir]

My brothers get away with murder compared to me. I have always had huge amounts of being sensible expected of me whereas if they go out and do something stupid, expensive or idiotic it's more easily excused. Really flaming annoying :(

[ummmm]

Daffy....It's hard not to spoil the youngest.

Andy...my daughters father lives in Ireland (she's in London) She's one of the funniest people I've ever met. She has got that bond with her dad but no where near my bond with her.

Oldest son punched my younger son (18 and 16) for talking back to me this morning. I just wonder do I let the youngest get away with things that the other two would never have got away with...

[ummmm]

Shar....I mother my daughter more than my sons, I don't know why.

[ummmm]

Anne....really?

[Ric.ror]

I only have sons and its common knowledge how I spoil them even though they don't live with me anymore
BUT - they are my sons and thats what I go out to work for

[ummmm]

I spoil my sons too...but I'm very protective of my daughter.

[sherrardk]

I'd like to think I treat mine equally but they are quite close in age so maybe it's easier to do for me. I also feel we weren't treated equally as children so maybe I go over the top in making sure my kids can see that they are treated equally.

[mikey4444]

I have no children but I have many friends who have sons, and most of them do. One friends youngest son has just started at University and the whole family drove up from the West Country to Sheffield two weekends ago with him. His mother then proceeded to make his bed in his Halls of Residence ! Her husband pointed out that now the son is a strapping great 18 year old, he could probably do that himself but it cut no ice. " At least he will have it done properly to start with" was her reply ! This was a duvet by the way, not sheets and blankets, with hospital corners.

If the youngest son is like his older brother then Mum will spend most of the weekend washing and ironing loads of washing, on the weekends that they come home. She even irons their socks and underpants !

Spoiling doesn't even come close ! Making a rod for her back more like.

[ummmm]

Mikey....I do nothing for my kids. They do all their washing and ironing. I clean the house and cook; they cater for their own needs besides that.

[Rebecca01]

Andy described my family to a tee!! My son is a mummy's boy and my daughter is a daddies girl, but they are both very independent and have always been treated the same, but in different ways, good thread ummm!!

[mikey4444]

Ummmm...glad to hear it. Would that more Mums in your position took such a strong stance...spoiling without the washing and ironing.