People Who 'big' Themselves Up

[nailit]

Do you find it nauseous when other people tell you how 'good' they are?
Had to attend a mental health well being group today and were asked to describe ourselves as we see it.
Some of the comments were...

'I havnt got a bad bone in my body'
'Im a nice person'
'Ive got a big heart'

Nothing wrong with a healthy dollop of self esteem...something I sadly lack in...but I find something odd about people who have to tell you what a nice, kind, caring person they are. Surely thats for others to judge for themselves?

I said that Im a melancholy, alcoholic misanthropist who has a deep distrust of people and society in general and have been diagnosed by shrinks in the past as having a borderline personality disorder and if I found 90 quid lying in the street I'd pocket it.... (OK, I didnt really mention the 90 quid)

Just turns me right off a person when they tell you that they are a 'nice' person. I'll be the judge of that thank you!

[murraymints]

:o)

[jim360]

I would normally try not to big myself up in conversation but the problem with that is that people invariably come to the judgement that I'm a git anyway. May as well get it over with from the start.

[murraymints]

ah Jim..s'no true....me and G loves ya ! xx

[jim360]

Of course, it's pretty ironic to say this perhaps given my last post, but I'd have thought that the people who do themselves down in a way that's blatantly just fishing for compliments are surely even more annoying...

[Tilly2]

I, on the other hand, am very self effacing.

[shoota]

No one is more modest than I am, I am the mostest modestest person in the world.....

[Psybbo]

Nailit, we are many different things to different people, I distrust those who proclaim they are nice!
Minty, Jim prefers to be called James :-)

[gness]

Just don't call him early, Minty.....☺

[nailit]

Wheres my previous replys gone?

[Psybbo]

Nailit, dongle malfunction?

[sandyRoe]

As far as shortcomings go there are plenty of others to see them. It's no bad thing to look at your good points and remember them when you're in a depressed state when the negative view you hold of yourself might be taking over.

[Psybbo]

Goodnight, talk tomorrow, awful day x

[BlackadderV]

I can sympathise with nailit. Over 20 years ago I was convicted of drink driving and put on probation to 'address' my alcohol issues. To my utter shame and humiliation, the probation officer turned out to be a former pupil of mine. Now that's degradation.