Wedding speeches

[Deancosmos]

I want a wedding with no speeches whatsoever. I will be the groom and am far too shy and I don't feel it's fair to expect others to stand up. Will this be frowned upon ?

[Postdog]

Doesn't need to be a speech, but it would be common courtesy for you - or someone - to thank the guests for coming and for any presents, and to let them know that the wedding is over and the party was on.

[dot.hawkes]

no speeches but you may just hack off the bride's family if you don't say thank you and acknowledge the guests.

[undercovers]

its your wedding but it might put some noses out of joint - the other members of the family might like to make a speech... if you don't want to make one don't but ask the others if they would like to...

[undercovers]

oh and i agree a quick toast in thanks to the guests and family would only be polite and i think would be missed if you didn't

[Ward-Minter]

How about recording one before and playing it out aloud. You MUST say something. What sort of wimp do you want to father of the bride to think his princess is marrying??

[UKbloke04]

Like you i am pretty shy when i have to speak in public..so at my wedding was just a few thank yous etc....but as people have previously said it is just common courtesy to say a few thank yous at least

[Toureman]

One of my nephews was to shy to give a speech so his new wife gave one!

Try that!

[sammd]

You don't have to give one - perhaps just the bride's dad (or your dad) and the best man could give one. I'm sure they wouldn't mind...

[nurse1]

Deancosmos, it is common courtesy to make a speech.

By the time the speeches come you would of done the hard part nerves wise, it really is not that bad.

Try to bring a little light humour to the speech also.

Just remember a lot of people have put time and effort into going to your wedding, you can do it, and no one will laugh at you

Have a great day

[denisegordon]

If you decide to say something, do it before the meal then you can get it over with and enjoy the rest of the day - and be able to eat something. We did it just after arriving at the reception venue rather than after the meal.

[lafrancaise]

Yes as many have said you should say something even if it's just 'I'm so gobsmacked that ------- said yes, all I can say is thank you for coming and sharing this special day with us'

[flipflop104]

Well I wouldn't be bothered if I went to a wedding and there were no speeches but I'm a bit unconventional.

Although I disagree with peeps on here that you thank the guests for turning up - they're getting a free meal - of course they're gonna turn up!!

My advice - get drunk before you have to thank them if you feel pressured enough to go through with doing a speech. But, if it were me I wouldn't do it - my wedding day, my rules!! (said I was unconventional)

[kendo2]

You speek whilst you have a chance mate. (You won't get a word in after your married !!! )

Good Health and all the best to you both.

[Hgrove]

I have just been to a lovely wedding without any speeches at all, and nobody minded. Apparently the bride and groom played it by ear and decided everything was flowing along nicely and decided not to have speeches.