Dont know what to do

[4getmenot]

I just don't know what to do, I live in a house made into 5 flat. Now the women upstairs had been driving me mad with her David Grey cd blasting through my ceiling. Nothing wrong with David Grey but after a week gets a bit tedious. Well Tuesday night/Wednesday morning at about 2am I was still awake while she was having a blazing row with what I believe must have been her bloke and after all the 'I love you, but I love you blah blah' I'd had enough and got up to the ceiling and shouted at the top of voice 'Ok you love him now shut up' after that it did go quiet in fact too quiet and then I heard a loud thud. Now since then I have heard nothing, no footsteps, no music and her post is piling up downstairs including lots of birthday cards. So I don't know what to do really, I mean how long do I leave it before I call police? She may have just gone away for her birthday and then I'd look a bit silly.

[dancealot13]

I'm sure she's fine. I wouldn't worry too much. Give it more time.

[maximo]

Oh god....have you tried knocking on her door ? Maybe you could talk to the other neighbours, they might know if she was planning on going away...Do you know any of her friends ? Obviously it's playing on your mind, especially after hearing the loud thud...it's playing on mine too now ! It's probably a silly explanation, like you said, she's lkely to have gone away for her birthday ! But if you are really worried, i think you should call the police after the week end, it's better to look silly for nothing than do nothing and regret it forever !

[4getmenot]

Well unfortunately my neighbours are either Indian or Portuguese so they wouldnt know or speak to her. And I've only ever seen her once and cant really remember what she looks like. I know her name from seeing her post. There is no point me knocking on door coz surely if she was in or conscious in this case she would have collected her post by now especially if they are birthday cards.

[maximo]

Well, yes...I guess I was having a blonde moment there ! Anyway, as I said, you can always call the police after the week end if you're really worried. Better safe than sorry hey ! ( although I guess that if she's been lying unconscious since tuesday, well...). But it's probably a simple explanation, 99% of the time it is ! Imagination goes into overdrive when things like that happen. I blame it on TV ! lol

[4getmenot]

How bad will I feel though for shouting at her if they do find a body :-(

[maximo]

Don't be silly, it would hardly be your fault ! I'm sure she's fine, enjoying her birthday somewhere ! Try not to worry. x

[kazzianne]

I would go and know on her door, and if she answers just say that you didnt want any bad feeling about the music situation and was she ok.If there is no reply then I would give it till tomorrow and then call the police and ask for advice.Say you want to remain anonymous so should they go round to investigate then it will look as though any one of the other 4 neighbours could have rang them,as Im sure they all heard the racket as well.

[dancealot13]

Honestly though. Do you really think her boyfriend would have killed her knowing that you hear everything they do through the floor? I bet she packed a bag and went to his house so they could be as loud as they want ;)

[Octavius]

I imagine the thud on the floor was her (or her boyfriend) stamping on it in retaliation to you. If I were you I would knock on the door and have a chat about the noise levels, particularly late at night, then hopefully you will have killed 2 birds with one stone - but not literally. That is, unless she doesn't take kindly to your intrusion.

[4getmenot]

He wouldnt have killed her, she was shouting on her phone to him. Either that or it was a one way argumanet :-) And I havent shouted at her about the music just I'd had enough of her arguing at 2am. But I'm still worried as you would be, But you're right probably my mind working overtime. :-)

[natalie_1982]

You can anonymously call the police, I really would do that. Without getting all 1930's on your ass.... that's the problem with the youth today blah bah blah no sense of community yadda yadda..... that's what my nan would say and I'm inclined to agree, check it out to make sure she is alright.

Ooooorrrrrr - just had a brainwave - if you know her name, look her phone number up in the book and ring it to see if there is a voicemail that might say she is away for however long (hopefully not forever mwahhahahaha).

[maximo]

Oooooooooh he wasn't there ?!?! Well, it changes everything then ! She's gone away for her birthday, simple as that ! :-)

[dancealot13]

OOOHhhhhh I thought he was there!! So they were fighting on the phone and then you heard a bang.

ok- They were in a fight-they made up-she packed a bag- and went to his house.

Don't worry about it for one more second ;)

[Richie1976]

You could always check to see if there's any money in the cards. ;-)

[natalie_1982]

She threw the phone really hard (doesn't everyone seem to do that when having a row?)!! Don't worry. I thought you meant he'd bumped her off.

[malaise]

I would go and chap the door, peek through the letter box, see if you can see anything. I'd phone the local station. The UK has no sense of community or looking out for your neighbours any more, because we all think it's "none of our business". Personally if I was lying on my floor unable to move, I'd appreciate someone showing a bit of concern.

I read in the news the other day that a woman had lay dead in her flat in central London for TWO YEARS because nobody had reported her missing. The neighbours noticed a bad smell from the flat, but never thought to report anything.

In saying that, she's probably just away staying with her bloke for a ehile or something equally non-dramatic.

[natalie_1982]

Surely her boyfriend would have noticed her missing?

[alfiebrady]

If it was her birthday, chances are that she would have been expected somewhere, by someone, especially since 1) she's young, 2) she has a boyfriend and 3) she has friends/relatives who have remembered her birthday.

If no-one's turned up at the flat, or come knocking on your door, I wouldn't worry about it.

Hope you have a good weekend - otherwise please do let us all know the grisly details.

[4getmenot]

Richie 1976 I had said to my sis I�d leave for a week and then I�d check the cards for money :-) (as a joke). And Natalie_1982 although a brilliant idea no-ones really in phonebook anymore and unfortunately she rents it. But very good point about her boyfriend, but if they had a major row maybe he just cant be bothered with her anymore. I might call her landlord soon or even get a ladder and try and peer in her windows :-)

[Cheekystar]

sniff the hall way every now and again