Love through the ages?

[Rubyrose]

Lately I have started thinking about this and the more I think about it, the more I believe it could be true.

Most people tend to believe the 'one person for everyone' theory. But I met a guy who I got on great with and we had a 5yr relationship. Towards the end things went wrong and I guess we just weren't the same people anymore. But this doesn't mean he wasn't the right guy for me. He was the right guy at the time.

I am only 21 and I have changed alot since I was 16 and no doubt I will change alot in the next 10-20 years of my life. I think me and him had a fantastic relationship and we just didn't end up in the same place. Very rarely will you meet someone who grows with you and grows in the same ways. If you do then you are very very lucky. But I think that there will be many loves for the many different stages of my life, and until I am the person I will be for the rest of my days... then I won't meet someone who I will spend the rest of my days with.

Do you believe that you can have different loves for the different person you are in the stages of your life?

Am I making any sense! Lol.

[robbo82]

Hi Ruby! Good question. I can't say that I've especially found that 'special someone' yet, so can't really comment. I've had a great time with everyone I've gone out with, but nothing's yet felt 'just right'. I'm not entirely sure I do believe in that 'one person for everyone' thing; otherwise, there would be much fewer divorces and separations around. I certainly think you just meet people who are right for you at that stage in your life, but it's only natural that you will both grow and change over the course of the relationship. Maybe I've just not met the right person yet...

[Champagne]

Yes, you are making sense. And I kinda agree with you. I have changed so dramatically over the years and I�m sure that I will change again, but one thing I do require from a partner is the ability to give me plenty of freedom. So long as I�m allowed the freedom to do what I want to do and be who I want to be and we both love being in each other�s company then I don�t see why I can�t be with that partner for life. I think it�s fine to travel down different paths now and again; so long as that path doesn�t take you too far away from each other for too long!

[peterd]

Yeah it could be that way, sounds a bit like right person wrong time ?

[Octavius]

Of course, but then you also have commitment which at some point in your life you will want to give and want to receive. For some, this is for life, for others it isn't. It's just life I'm afraid. I married recently and I intend to keep that way for the rest of my life reagrdless of what changes (and I am sure there will be many) occur in my life.

[frankleigh]

Hi Ruby - I've got that deja-vu feeling, not only about the question, but about peterd's answer. lol

Anyway - I agree with you.

[*Zeus*]

Ruby....Im lookin for that someone special.....met dozens of birds in last few years and not thought about any of them as potential wives....am now in 30s and thinkin...am i gonna meet someone I wanna marry, or will I do as a cupple of mates have done in last few years and marry anyone that comes along.

I only want to marry once...for life.....so am being very picky...but my good looks are gonna fade as I get older so will probably end up doing what my mates have done and just find anyone.

[Dan Glebitts]

i think ive found the perfect someone, but alas, I am young and unknowing.

[Rubyrose]

Frankleigh.. I know what you mean.. Lol.. ;o)

Zeus - I heard a something once that I have always believed true.. (I think it was in Sex and the City).. Men are like cabs.. you got to catch them when their lights on. Most men drive around their whole lives without their lights on and they throw away potentially good wives. Then their light comes on, they want to get married and they marry the next one that comes along! Please.... wait until you find someone special.. it will be all the more worth it. :o)

[peterd]

the wonder of copy & paste ;)

[burnhal]

Dear me- some of you youngsters- you cant analyse it for christ's sake! What a load of cack about being picky- its not a ruddy supermarket you know!!

And whats that rubbish about throwing away potential good wives. Grief- when it happens it will happen- you cant predict the future- and choosing carefully wont make the blindest bit of difference as to whether it lasts or not- you have to work at it to keep it going and alive. And even then, even though you think it will last for ever, it may well not- things change, people change and you may end up going your seperate ways. Dont try and analyse it- accept it! If you are desperate then that puts people off straight away.

And I am one of the lucky ones- married at 23 and me and the missus are still going strong 27 years later