Is anyone Mr (or Mrs) Perfect?

[gill3891]

Hi everyone,

The reason I am writing this is to get people's opinions on what or who Mr Perfect is? How do you know if you have found him?

I have such a lush boyfriend, who is always there for me and I connect with in so many ways..... but I feel that constant question in my mind....how do you know if he's THE ONE?

I know people will probably say that the fact that I am thinking this shows me that he's not the one...but I do honestly believe that he is.

I suppose my real question is this...even though he doesn't write me soppy love poems, or buy me little gifts, or thinks to do little things like that for me, does this mean we're not meant for eachother?

How do you know when you have found The ONE?

[nobjob]

oh id kinda class myself in that catagory

[BigMac]

I think the answer has to be no.

If I had a pound for every time I've heard a woman say "I've found the perfect man... I've just got to change his dress/manners/hygiene/whatever..." than I think I would have appeared at No 1 in the Sunday Times supplement at the weekend.

But the romantic part of me says, you will KNOW if it's the one because you won't need to ask...

[Champagne]

You just know. Everything with them is a breeze and you find yourself walking around with a skip in your step. No arguments, lots of laughter and lots of fantastic s.e.x.

Of course, there's nothing to say that you could marry this guy and then 40 years from now fall in love all over again with somebody completely different. If this is the case, then do you want to park your life until your 'true love' enters your life? Or do you want to take your chances on your current man being 'the one'?

Nobody knows what the future holds for you, gill. If you love this man then show it, and enjoy it.

[alijangra]

I know this will sound stupid but you just do! I know I have met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with but he is by no means perfect!! He can be moody, selfish, messy and just plain irritating! He can also be loving,kind, passionate and thoughtful. Oh yes and he is absolutely gorgeous. Call me shallow but that is important to me to keep the sexual attraction and passion alive. And we always laugh, which is possibly one of the most important things between us.

He is never soppy or romantic, but thats just him. Its depends how impotant that kind of stuff is to you. I can live without it quite happily.

[nobjob]

it doesnt have to be mr right just mr right now just go with the flow and see where it takes you

[gill3891]

Alijangra, you have hit the nail on the head I think. Thats how I feel about my boyfriend...he's not perfect by any means...but he's perfect for me!

I guess my question was really to see if Mr Perfect has faults? Thanks guys xx

[Slooow_Jo]

Just make sure his 1st name is always lol

[WiccanKitten]

I don't think there is ever a perfect partner.
But.......i think that the perfect relationship can occur when you accept that you'll never be perfect!
Realise the imperfections, work to change them or accept them with grace. Once you can accept eachother as who you are, faults and all, then i'd say you were just about - PERFECT!
xx

[suzi-q]

Alijangra has it right. Thats how I feel about my man too. He doesnt buy me flowers but then again he doesnt need to. He sends me lovely soppy texts, I usually (but not always) get my own way. He holds my hand on the settee. I just love being with him, cant wait to see him even when we've just been to work for the day. Hes not perfect - how hard to live up to would that be? Hes just lovely to me. Sorry if you feel sick now.

[*Zeus*]

Im a God...of course Im perfect

[shaneystar2]

I have been married to Mr.S for 34 years. I had known him precisely six weeks when we married. I knew ,after racketing around with other blokes that he was the one.He has never been lovey dovey ..but...he has been the most wonderful husband and father.I just knew when I met him that he was the one.Why..I can't tell you! We have rowed and fought over the years but in all honesty I would never be without him. He has never been one for sloppy gestures but I know that he is always there for me.You don't need a bunch of flowers or a sloppy card to say how much you love someone. Nobody is perfect and we should never try to mould someone into what we as individuals think is perfect .
Everything in life is a gamble and if we never take that gamble....who knows?

[butterfly23]

As some others have mentioned, you just do. They may have some annoying habits, but what makes them perfect is that those annoying traits don't bother you - in fact you love them for their slight imperfections, you find them always being late and then making it up to you cute. They make you feel like the most wonderful, and special person, not only in their life but in the world.

You know that you would do anything for them, but more importantly they would do anything for you.

When I met the love of my life I knew the moment that I met him he was THE ONE. I felt instinctively drawn to him, and despite the feeling of jubilation I had, I felt a sense of fear, because I knew although he was the person that I'd like to spend the rest of my life with, he also had the potential of turning my life upside down and of (unwillingly perhaps) hurting me more than anyone else ever would.

I don't think the perfect man means someone that has no faults but someone who makes you feel like a queen.

[Hamish]

It would depend on how you defined perfection - what you need or what you want. If you want a relatioship with someone who puts no demands on you it suggests that you already consider yourself to be perfect .......

Personally I think any relationship needs to allow growth and change and give and take, afterall what you feel it perfect today may not be so tomorrow so if you find your perfect partner, but they are not good at addapting/changing, the rel. will not remain perfect.