What Constitutes Bullying?

[mini61]

I am a carer & have been with my present employer for 16 months. My employer constantly makes comments about what I wear .. i.e "Oh dear God, what do you think you are wearing? go to the rag-bag under my kitchen sink & get something from there to put on, my rags are so much better quality than your attire ..... & she has stated that she dislikes my best friend (ex team mate) & said that I had to choose between my friend & my job. she has made comments that there is evil in the house & she will light a candle for me a I am the cause, my life style, my financial status etc etc .. she suspended me the other day, no explaination... I am signed off on the sick with work related stress & I am terrified to go back but she she knows I need he money as I am in rent arrears ....any help

[EDDIE51]

You say you are a 'carer' what do you mean by that?
Are you careing for a person with mental health issus, dementia or an elderly person?
If so this putting up with this type of behaviour is part of the job.
I have worked in a care home and I know some of the residents could be abusive to staff.

[cassa333]

I was going to say the same EDDIE51

If she i
Does not have mental health issues or has dementia etc and you are saying she is just a nasty person, you have (as far as I can see) three options.

1. Tell her she is being rude and disrespectful
2. Put up with it for the sake of the job
3. Leave

If she has dementia of some sort or a mental illness that can't be addressed then I'm afraid you have to put up with it. If you find you just can't put up with a patient such as this then you're in the wrong job.

[Peter Pedant]

You could be with an agency ( your employer ) and paid to care for someone

anyway the case at present is that you havent clocked up 24 mo service so you have very little come back...