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Injunction Application...
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Hi all.
I had a very heated 'incident' with my ex partner (husband) on the weekend which unfortunately involved a knife being held to my neck, being locked in a property, the children being there, the police, and him being arrested... think that covers it!
Anyway, the police came round in the evening and said he was being held and that they needed to take a statement from me.
I did this, and they then asked if I wanted to press charges.
There was no evidence as he had hidden the knife and I had no marks to my skin, but they said I could press charges against being detained (myself and the kids) against our will.
They went on to say how he was in a terrible state and that he was with the crisis team due to his current mental state... he's sent me texts saying he was going to kill himself.
I decided not to press charges, because it's such a messy situation as it is, and I do believe it was completely out of character and that he is suffering badly.
However, the texts are still continuing.
Nothing threatening nor abusive, but just constant texts and calls, literally from the morning through to night.
I have told him he can see the kids, I have never once said he couldn't, but it has to be supervised until he can show he has calmed down... i.e sought help for his temper, etc.
The kids were extremely distressed by the whole thing and are now saying they don't want to see him.
I've got it into my head that he's going to go to my son's school, wait for him to come out, and then take him back to his... which he know will be a way to get back at me and make me sick with worry.
I can't physically be at the school as I have to pick my young daughter up... he walks.
It was suggested by the police that I look to get an injunction out on him, but I just don't know where to start.
I've called my local magistrates court and they gave me a website to look on www.justice.gov.uk and said I need to search for 'non-molestation' and print off the forms.... but I can't seem to find them?
Would this also stop him from doing what I fear, just turning up at my son's school and picking him up?
I feel really, really sorry for him at the moment, and completely responsible as it was me that got him to move out.
However, I now feel like I'm constantly living in fear, in case he comes back round unannounced and climbs over the garden fence... which is what he did.
I feel like I'm kicking a man when he's down, but I just don't know what to do? I am trying to be as nice and amicable as possible, and have sat for hours speaking to him on the phone whilst he's been threatening to end his life, but it seems everything 'nice' I say to him, he takes that as false hope.
Any help/advise would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
I had a very heated 'incident' with my ex partner (husband) on the weekend which unfortunately involved a knife being held to my neck, being locked in a property, the children being there, the police, and him being arrested... think that covers it!
Anyway, the police came round in the evening and said he was being held and that they needed to take a statement from me.
I did this, and they then asked if I wanted to press charges.
There was no evidence as he had hidden the knife and I had no marks to my skin, but they said I could press charges against being detained (myself and the kids) against our will.
They went on to say how he was in a terrible state and that he was with the crisis team due to his current mental state... he's sent me texts saying he was going to kill himself.
I decided not to press charges, because it's such a messy situation as it is, and I do believe it was completely out of character and that he is suffering badly.
However, the texts are still continuing.
Nothing threatening nor abusive, but just constant texts and calls, literally from the morning through to night.
I have told him he can see the kids, I have never once said he couldn't, but it has to be supervised until he can show he has calmed down... i.e sought help for his temper, etc.
The kids were extremely distressed by the whole thing and are now saying they don't want to see him.
I've got it into my head that he's going to go to my son's school, wait for him to come out, and then take him back to his... which he know will be a way to get back at me and make me sick with worry.
I can't physically be at the school as I have to pick my young daughter up... he walks.
It was suggested by the police that I look to get an injunction out on him, but I just don't know where to start.
I've called my local magistrates court and they gave me a website to look on www.justice.gov.uk and said I need to search for 'non-molestation' and print off the forms.... but I can't seem to find them?
Would this also stop him from doing what I fear, just turning up at my son's school and picking him up?
I feel really, really sorry for him at the moment, and completely responsible as it was me that got him to move out.
However, I now feel like I'm constantly living in fear, in case he comes back round unannounced and climbs over the garden fence... which is what he did.
I feel like I'm kicking a man when he's down, but I just don't know what to do? I am trying to be as nice and amicable as possible, and have sat for hours speaking to him on the phone whilst he's been threatening to end his life, but it seems everything 'nice' I say to him, he takes that as false hope.
Any help/advise would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
Answers
THis isnt my area Baby-Sham. HOwever, this organisation might help:- http:// www. ncdv. org. uk/ non- molestation- order/
11:13 Mon 13th Apr 2015
THis isnt my area Baby-Sham. HOwever, this organisation might help:-
http:// www.ncd v.org.u k/non-m olestat ion-ord er/
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Thank you, BM. I am looking on there now :-)
Ratter, he seems to be getting himself together today.
Said he's got an appointment for CBT and anger management, which is a start.
I will not allow myself nor my children to be in that situation with him again. If he wants to see the kids, then it has to be somewhere public, and supervised.
Ratter, he seems to be getting himself together today.
Said he's got an appointment for CBT and anger management, which is a start.
I will not allow myself nor my children to be in that situation with him again. If he wants to see the kids, then it has to be somewhere public, and supervised.