Is It Possible

[nailit]

To fall in love with someone you don't find physically attractive?
I never have. So that begs the question, is love (romantic love that is) nothing more than a sexual urge?
Just curious what others think.
Thanks.

[jennyjoan]

Many years ago I knew a wee fella - maybe 9 years younger than me - he just fixed a few cars for me but I found there was chemistry more with me probably than him. we never dated or anything like that but we did like each other a lot.

I met him about 2 weeks ago and of course we haven't seen each other in about 20 years but I still felt that chemistry.

Another sceniora I went with a few men in my day and always thought I "loved" them but when I went with a man that was and dear to my heart - I knew what true love was - never got him tho. I had got the best why would I want the rest.

[DTCwordfan]

Iceland, in Ireland - which county, Northern Ireland, Eire?
10p off at Iceland, while stocks last.
Lurpak £1.06 decreasing 5 or 6p
by 1300 tomorrow.
North it’s dearer, South it’s dearer.
Who in Government cares?

[DTCwordfan]

I’ve made an AB ham sandwich
That I cannot eat.
Not because I’m a Muslim
Or allergic to meat.
Not because I have
A mouth with no visual face.
I do have a mouth.
Look. Arghhhhhhhh.
I can’t eat the sandwich
Because it’s unlovable.
The ratter porker slices slide
Usher Eccles' chutney to the AB table.
The excessive Lurpak
Removing all friction
The ham falls away
In 'No-Love' nailit valediction.

[Mamyalynne]

Note to self - double check which category you are in before you formulate an answer.



Sorry for the digression from fats and spreads folks.

[MrMartell]

excellent DTC think i'll spread the lurpack on myself tomorrow see if i get any takers

[Psybbo]

Mamya, I apologise, back to the question, I was going to post Luke Kelly singing Raglan Road

[nailit]

Ok, I'll admit. This question may be slightly more than curiosity or reading Desmond Morris books again (though I have). A friend of mine let it drop yesterday that he hasnt had sex with his wife for the last few years as she 'has gone of it'. He has never been tempted to stray, he loves his wife and family. But finds it frustrating that his wife wont recognize HIS needs. This brings back my own questions that I posted a few years back about living in a non sexual relationship when your partner suddenly decides that sex is not an option and you better get used to it..
I really dont understand how a couple can have a physical relationship and then one of them decides no more thank you and the other has to accept it just like that. Like 'I dont take sugar in my tea no more, thanks'.

[Psybbo]

Nailit, allowances such as age, medication and illness have to be taken into account but if you've had a very good relationship, it'll survive.

[jourdain2]

In answer to OP - Yes! Irrefutably, yes! It's chemistry plus intellect, plus character, plus interests plus the X factor. This is a female P.O.V.. When all that happens, then the physical appearance becomes more than attractive. Don't just look at the book cover, in other words. :)

[nailit]

//Nailit, allowances such as age, medication and illness have to be taken into account but if you've had a very good relationship, it'll survive.//
Guess the keywords are //if you've had a very good relationship, it'll survive
//
A raraity nowadays.

[Psybbo]

Life is never easy:-(

[ummmm]

I never found my OH attractive but the more time I spent with him the stronger my feelings for him got, the stronger they got the more attractive he became.

So my answer is yes...

[DaisyNonna]

Let not the marriage of true minds admit impediments

[woofgang]

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! It is an ever-fixèd mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

[piggynose]

maybe i´m different. I feel something usually before i properly see it.But because women only find me physically attractive they dont connect properly. luckily i think i found the right woman after about 30 years chasing shadows.
i hope this makes sense

[DaisyNonna]

Thanks woofgang all too many years since I learned it.
My favourite sonnet.

[tamborine]

Headaches/too tired is not a fair share of marriage, unless for medical reasons.

http://site.themarriagebed.com/biology/male/physiology-of-the-male-sex-drive

[TWR]

My thoughts,

Thoughtful
Good conversation
Same type of Interest,
Not a Sulky,
Have a Blow & make friends,
Never go to Bed / Work in an argument,
to be there when each has a very serious medical Issue,
Likes a drink but not OTT,
Clean & Tidy in Appearance in Self / Home
Not Jealous.

Am I expecting too much?

[chaptazbru2]

I could never fall in love with someone I did not find physically attractive.