I Have 3 Kids By A Man And He Just Found Out About Them. What Will He Do?

[BabyCrazy]

Please don't judge. So I've been having sex with this man since I was 18. It started freshman year in college. He was a junior. It wasn't anything serious, we'd just hook up occasionally. I got pregnant by him with my first child around the 5th time we had sex and hadn't seen him for a month afterwards. When I found out I was pregnant I considered telling him but at that time he had just gotten a girlfriend, so I saw no real point to tell him he was about to have a kid when he was pursuing a relationship. I dropped out of school and worked as a waitress for a bit to make ends meet. My mom wanted nothing to do with me so I was in it alone. After my son was born I was having trouble paying the bills so I caved and took a job as stripper. I know, here come the insults. So after about 2 years of stripping and making decent money to support my son one night while I'm working in walks you guessed it baby daddy. He was at his bachelor party and was getting married tomorrow. At first I was pretty embarassed and tried to hide, but my boss called me out to come dance and that's when he saw me. He pulled me aside and we talked for a bit but of course I didn't mention my son. He was more interested in why I had dropped out and what I was doing here. Told him that my mom sick and just needed extra cash to pay for medical bills. That seemed to convince him, and we talked more and one thing ledn to another and we ended up having sex again unprotected. my birth control failed and then I became pregnant with my daughters (twins). I hadn't seen him for 3 more years until he came by a diner i work the day shift at. He was with his wife and she was pregnant. We of course acted like we didn't know each other until my son's pre-school teacher and my friend dropped him off early from her pre-school and my son came running up to me and gave me hug. My son looks just like Chad. Almost identical. When he saw my son and my expression I guess he figured something wasn't right.
I tried to avoid him, but I saw him excuse himself from his wife and then in private he pulled me aside and asked about my son. I figured there was no point in lying anymore since he was already suspicious. So I told him the truth that yes my son was biologically his. he was mad and asked why didn't I tell him about him etc. then after he seemed to have calmed down i let the other secret out that we had 2 daughters as well from the night we hooked up before his wedding. At that, he blew a fuse Report
7min At first he thought I wasn't serious, but I told him the truth and said that No that I had 3 children by him. He looked at me incredulousy and just shook his head and walked away and then he went back to his wife placed some cash on the table and then he left with his wife. I could hear his wife ask him what was wrong, but I didn't hear his reply. I'm worried what will he do?

[Canary42]

This is one of the silliest questions we've had on Answerbank. How can we tell what this guy will do ?

Just ASK HIM, not us.

[Deskdiary]

atalanta - "Is this the plot for a novel?"

Well done for getting that comment past Nanny.

I suggested she was pitching her film plot to the wrong audience and my response was removed.

In fact, I'm pretty sure I've already seen this film.

[EDDIE51]

I am assuming USA by the words used 'Mom' ' gotten' 'bachelor party' 'diner'
If this is the UK then the advice is, report him to the CSA (or what ever it is called now) and get maintenance paid then work out a contact plan via the family court.

[Peter Pedant]

I think this story - as Eddie puts it - is somehow inspiring for us Brits

in that it details how hard work and Protestant work ethic overcomes undeserved adversity

[Bathsheba]

@ PP...:-D

[B00]

Now see this is where I disagree with the maintenance payment thing.

Why on earth should a man have to pay towards a child (or in this case children) he neither knew about nor agreed to having in the first place?

[EDDIE51]

You may disagree Boo but it is the Law, hard in a case like this, but the guy had unprotected sex and has to live with the consequences.