Invading someones privacy?

[Rubyrose]

In reference to Littlemissx's question. Alot of the girls on here have said they went through an ex's phone and thats how they found out they were cheating. My questions is.... why are we all apologising for it? We were the ones being lied to so why say sorry? If he wasn't cheating then you can apologise for going through his phone and being suspicious but if it turned out he was cheating... then s0d it. He deserved it!

My ex broke up with me and told me he simply wasn't in love with me anymore (after 5 yrs) and 4 days after we broke up, he was in the bath and his dad called the house phone and said he was on his way over to fix the boiler and he said called my ex's mobile and got no answer. I went upstairs and told me ex his dad would be round in 30 mins. I was calling to my ex from the bedroom where his phone was charging and I said 'You've got one missed call from your dad'. I cancelled the call and then the phone said 'one new text'.. I honestly thought it was the voicemail notice coz his dad had called. I clicked on it and it said 'Sarah Mob'... so without hesitation I opened the message. It said 'I'm all alone x'... I screamed out 'Who the f*ck is Sarah' and heard my ex jump up out of the bath! If I hadn't have read the text then I wouldn't have known about her and God only knows how I would have found out. Maybe I would have bumped into them in town together? I am not ashamed that I read the text. What he was doing was far worse. But me and my ex had always been pretty carefree about eachother seeing our phones. He would pick mine up and play games.. I would do the same with his. If he was using my phone and a text came through I would ask him to read it to me.. that sort of thing. No regrets. :o)

How many people on here have caught someone out by going through their phone? Mobiles must cause so many break-ups and divorces now. Lol.

[Rubyrose]

LazyGun.. you have just shot yourself in the foot! You are moaning for all these things that you have just admitted you did when faced with the same situation!!!! Lol

[LazyGun]

People change Ruby..... that happened some 15 odd years ago.... I am a different person now. :)

If I met up with the person I was as the person I am now, I would give me a good clip across the ear.

[sense4all]

Kaz This type of reaction would give me issues on several different levels. Are you OK now hon.? I would have halted the whole thing in it's tracks by insisting WE sat down and HE phoned the number to satisy himself about the nature of the text. End of. Not let it pick up momentum through the day. I once had a text asking me to marry someone, I showed my husband and we text back to ask prospective husband When could he come round to take me away from it all, we got a call a few mins later.... poor nervous s0d has mis dialled through nervousness ... it gave us both a laugh. It was no big deal!!

[Rubyrose]

Exactly LazyGun. People do change but at one time in your life you saw this as the only option. Maybe one day I will change my point of view aswell but right now I am sticking to my guns on this one. Each to their own.

[Bowieblue]

Yes life is too short to wonder if you can trust someone all the time. I too am 'black and white' about relationships - true that they change and move on - but my ex said there are always 'grey areas' - not if you truly love and are committed to that person. The only grey area I could see was on the b.....'s head!