I Had The Worst Year And The

[phleb]

last few weeks have taken their toll on me. Been trying for a baby for 3 years non stop, and this is the fourth year, and still not pregnant. Was on clomid for 6 months, failed. Had marriage problems, now all fine. Then, to top it all my dear brother passes away unexpectedly, leaving me devastated.

I feel things have got on top of me now. The only thing keeping me going is my 2 kids and my job. I sleep every afternoon, all afternoon, i don't know why. My thyroid is ok. I have not even woke to pick kids up from school, hubby has been doing it. I am so emotionally tired, and just cannot cope with life, but i won't do anything stupid, i do have my kids to think about.

I do however, feel like i have lost control of my senses, and do not know what i will do next, so can't gaurantee that i am fine!

As i say, i have been on clomid for 6 months and failed, i still want another baby, and just don't know what my options are, which option would be reliable?. Everything is so confusing at the moment....i want something to distract me from this tough episode of my life.

[woofgang]

your body and your inner self are saying "enough" I had 4 years of awfullness which ended in 2011 with the death of my beloved husband. During that 4 years I was strong, cared for him did stuff, sorted other bits of awfulness and never had a day's illness. Six months after he passed i started to feel absolutely exhausted and sleep for England and last december I had a month of minor illness, noro followed by the cold from hell. Its only really lately that i have begun to feel at all "normal"
All I can say is be kind to yourself. If you have two fine healthy children, can you not let it go at that, 3+ years TTC is a real marathon, maybe you are just not up to it.
I really honestly think that your best option at the moment is to work to recover your health and equilibrium before looking into what your options are. Are you telling your GP how you feel?

[Smowball]

Completely agree with woofgang. Your body is telling you it is exhausted.

[China Doll]

I'd get your head and well being sorted before even considering another baby. Go and see your GP, you may be able to get some support for this. Once you feel more on top of things you can rethink having a baby.

[Old_Geezer]

Life gets to us all at times. But the ups come along as well as the downs. Use here to offload if it helps. I don't have solutions save to say, take it a day at a time and things do change. Maybe you can talk again to your GP re pregnancy ? And maybe ask if they have any suggestions with regards to how you're feeling too.

[boxtops]

Go and see either your GP, phleb, or the Occy Health nurse where you work -tell her how you're feeling. It might be that you have a bit of depression - life's been hard on you lately - and a short course of treatment will help considerably.

Re the baby bit - this is another pressure on you that you can do without, and stress is known to be a reason why people don't get pregnant. You already have two lovely kids, a lot of people can't have any at all..... I'd drop the clomid, just let nature take its course. It was only when I came off clomid (many many years ago) and just accepted that it might not happen, that I got pregnant - I stopped fretting that every time we "did it", this might be the time.

You really do have so much going for you - go seek some clinical help for your current state of tiredness and wornoutedness, and forget the baby bit for a few months.

[bednobs]

hi phleb i agree with the others but also understand the driving need for a baby, despite how many you have had previously. When you were on clomid, was it through a fertility clinic, or through the GP? did whoever prescribed it give you any indication of the next step? The next step for you will depend upon the current reason for your infertility.
It makes sense to get as healthy as possible (both of you). you have posted previously under a different name about weight loss - if you are still overweight, then start dieting (and husband) as you are muslim, i presume you both don't drink, but if you smoke, stop that. Start some exercise, I know it's hard, but it'll maximise your chances. Also, how often are you doing sex? you need to be doing it regularly to maximise your chances - especially around ovulation time