Need Advise...

[MPsoldier]

My Girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years...in the first year we where together we decided to have a child, yes we where in our senior year in high school but she said yes. I asked her if she'd ever have an abortion being that im really against it and everything about it, she did it anyway saying that we were'nt ready. Now its 4 years later and we have been on and off yet in those four years, she has felt like I was trying to take control of her life, in which she lied to me about who she was with or where she was at also lied to me about awhole summer in which she rented a shore house with 4 or 5 other females and about seven other males, I never knew abou this until one day i decided to take a trip down the shore to find her on the porch sitting on some guys lap surround by about 8 other guys and another female friend.She excuse was that she needed some space, something that had nothing to do with me, yet lieing to me and pushing me away would solve this? After this I began to talk to females and had a relationship with someone she knew nothing about. Me and her are attempting to move past our history and both want to get married and back in with each other. There is one problem, I'm in the military and shipping out soon. I asked her for her password to her myspace or email, she got all defensive and told me she has no reason why she should give this to me, yet she knows all of mine. I dont know what to do

[NORMANTHEDOG]

move on man

[andydawkins]

hmmm you did the right thing in my eyes asking for the passwords, she should see it from your point of view.
be funny with her and change your passwords, i mean you cant do much at the moment unless you turn around and say i dont trust you

[sarnieken]

Sounds like you're from the US.
We have a saying in the UK that goes, 'Flogging a dead horse' and you are most certainly doing that.

I presume you are heading out somewhere that isn't exactly pleasant. If you go and haven't sorted the situation out then you are going to be worrying about it and it will most certainly affect you doing your job at a time when the thing you have to concentrate on is getting back alive.

If she has done the thing in the past where she goes off with guys it is highly likely she will do it when you're on the other side of the world.
Also, not giving you access to her myspace area or even an email address shows that she isn't interested in maintaining contact while you are away.
In my own oppinion you should end it before you go. It will be better for you as you will know where you stand.
Good luck btw wherever you end up going.

[sn�gged]

Get rid and concentrate on yourself and what you have to do overseas. If, whilst you're away you continue to remain in contact then that's proof that there is still something there. Sounds to me like your head is getting screwed up over this - whereas she don't give a flying fig. The break/distance could be just what you need. Good luck.

[Mistopheles]

I wouldn't give out my passwords to my email, no matter how well behaved I was, or how much I trusted my partner.

That said, give it up. You'll never get past the history, you are obviously still suspicious if you are asking for passwords (and who can blame you?), and you're going to have enough to worry about in the military without driving yourself mad wondering what your girlfriend is up to.