New kitten with older cat? help!

[dmj]

Hi,

Last week I got a 7 week old female kitten, I also have a 1 year old male cat, and as I suspected he's not very impressed :( He has always been a pampered boy and now he's not happy that I've brought this adorable ball of fluff into the home, at the moment she is in the abthroom at night so that he can have the run of the house and also when I'm at work so I can leave cat flap open, but he attacks her quite alot, I realsie its pecking order but at one point he had her head in his mouth! He doesnt get his heckles up and he doesnt hiss, very ocassionally his claws come out at her, he wont let her eat her food before he's had some, and even if shes just led down he will come in and pounce? I dont know what to do, I dont want to tell him off but when do you need to intervene, I'm thinking if he was really gonna go for her he would of done so by now? Help!! We love them both equally but I had visions of them cuddling up together and being best mates, hence me not getting another Tom, but now I'm wondering if I've done the right thing? any advice would be great, thanks xx

[carmy]

hi,
i know how you feel, i resued a 9 yr old cat from rspca, we had her for about 5 months when we decided to get a friend for her, a 2 yr old tom, she did not like it at all and hissed every time he walked passed and sometimes paws would fly but they never actually would fight. we have had new cat about 3 months now and they are still not best friends but they have acceped eachother, although new cat never had a problem anyway. just give them time is my suggestion.
good luck