Mine have dry food available all day then 1 wet 85gm pack morning and evening. 2 are on my bed all day, go out about 6pm, come in for food at 11pm and stay on the bed for an hour with me then off until they wake me at 7. One took 3 years to be on the bed with me. The other 5 are all over the house, 1 has never slept with anyone, 1 sleeps with the dog, 1 with the grand kids. The other 2 are not people cats. Have you tried resting on the bed with Toby during the day. Just go and put your feet up next to him