What else can i do????

[confused]

Hi i have recently put posts about my ex partner assaulting me - he swears he didnt touch me and didnt have knife to me. The thing is im not actually sure what happend! Ive been over and over it thousand times but its still not clear! Ive spoke to IDVA and loads of other people but nobody seems interested! Im currently suffering from anxiety and depression so they are just saying its because of that that im confused but i can read my original statement before court - i dont think this is fair surly if im not clear what happend he can not be still charged!
Any advice would be great about what else i can do!

Thanks

[ummmm]

Your not sure if he held a knife to your neck?

[confused]

Im not sure he did - the nite before i threatend to kill myself with the same knife - my head gets so confused - i have explained all this but nobody will listen and i dont know what else to do - he is in court on Wednesday for plea hearing!

[Eve]

Have you got a solicitor? If so, what have they said?

What do you think happened? Can you run through events you are sure of?

[sara3]

you seemed pretty sure when you posted this.. http://www.theanswerb...w/Question884730.html

[ummmm]

Even if he didn't hold a knife to you he still punched you.

You want him back so it sounds like you're back tracking.

[confused]

Yes i know and im expecting some abuse on here which i can understand but i really could do with some advice please!
At the time i believed what i said was rite but now im not sure. I dont actually remember everything that happend. The fact remains i dont feel comfortable standing in court sending him to prison when im not sure!

[sara3]

you said the police officer could see marks on your neck.

[carrot99]

i dont think this is fair surly if im not clear what happend he can not be still charged!

is he threatening you and trying to get you to drop the charges? I don't think it's fair he's assaulted you before and has previous allegations of domestic violence.

[ummmm]

Are you sure that you're not just worried that he won't want to get back with you if he gets sent down?

[yogi-bear]

Hi confused,

I've briefly gone over the link that sara posted and it seems you did see prety sure then.......so what gives?.

If your b/f has punched you, put a knife to you and threatened your life, he is'nt going to change if you're seriously thinking of taking him back. Did you take in ANY advice on the thread you posted on friday night?

Men like that, who are abusive to women, wont change unless they REALLY want too....they're pretty much scum...nothing more nothing less......if you change your story or he gets off and comes back to you, you may not be so lucky next time when he flips his piggin' lid....i do hope you understand what i'm saying to you, confused..............best of luck to you whatever you decide to remember and do......but PLEASE.....think about yourself FIRST....ok? x

[Eve]

What your statement said could be vital as well.

How did you express what happened in that? Did you state things definitely happened you are now not sure of or were other things taken into account when charging him, separate to your statement eg witnesses and medical evidence?

Do you know how he is intending to plead? I assume not guilty. Don't the CPS make the decision as to whether to prosecute on the case put to them?

Always remember the whole perjury thing, if you tell the truth then no-one can take that away from you.

Also take into account the potential ramifications of an incorrect or misleading statement or something in it which might discredit other things you might say and make the case weaker against him for things you are sure of.

Have you taken legal advice?

[cherrychapstick]

no your not allowed to read your statement after you have signed it ,its the polices safeguard so if you change your story dramatically they will know whether you are lying or not

[yogi-bear]

'seem pretty'.....sorry typed quickly as hitting the hammock now....

Night, confused......please think about your future......and get what, and who.. you deserve, my lovely x

[sara3]

contact the Witness Support Officer at the court (or any court) and get some advice and real support.

[cherrychapstick]

night yogi ,


sleep well xx

[yogi-bear]

Night, cherry....you sleep well too, when you turn in, sweetheart xx

Night sara, ummmm, Jenna, and carrot too xxxx

[sara3]

night night yogi xx

[ummmm]

Night night Yogi xxx

[dizmouk2009]

Jenna I love your avatar

[Eve]

Night night Yogi and all and thank you dizmouk :)

I feel bad trying to be all practical when I actually hope if he is the thug he sounds like he gets what he deserves.